Advice on how to deal with live-in mother?

Marylynne
sent you a website for info on bipolar...sent it to your email.
if you want more just type in bipolar signs and symptoms and it will give you websites...good luck.

Hugs
Cindi

Hi everyone
My son and his daughter visited last night to celebrate her 18 th birthday and to say goodby- she is leaving for first year of college today- I actually got TWO hugs from her which never happens I almost cried- she said I'll be back in four months. Our son raised her from the age of 11-parents divorced when she was 5 and her brother was about 3 months. He did a great job her mother didn't want her anymore at that time. Thank God my son did not carry the abuse on which usually happen when they see as a child-I don't know how I got such great kids with what they and I had to endure--I think I can take some credit for that but it really was our God's providence for sure.

Morning everyone. I'm sorry to hear about all the problems everyone is having, wish I could help but all I can do is just listen. I also have money problems and don't have a car. When I get out of this house is because my son or my other daughter take me out. Sometimes my girlfriends will come and get me also. Miak, you will do great as a teachers aide. I live close to the border of Illinois and Wisconsin. And don't let your father get to you, those people know you. And we will not sink, we are survivors. Cindi, I am doing ok. Total knee replacements can be very hard and I'm sorry you had to go thru that already. But like you said, its better than what it was before. I guess the thing is that u have to find a good surgeon and therapist or otherwise, the surgery won't work. I guess my mom and I were lucky since I knew both surgeon and therapist. Wish your sister good luck and u too. Marylynne, don't jump off any bridges you hear? I know that sometimes life can be so negative that the only solution seems to do is to be done with yourself. Believe me, I've been there before. That is not the answer. Have to keep on going until God makes a decision for us. About your daughter, no way let her come back in the house. My kids have big mouths but they know that if they raise it too much or think about hitting me, they will find themselves on the floor. I raised them on my own and even if they don't like it, I am their mother and have to respect me. I have always told them, "I am your mother until the day I die and u will respect me even if u don't like it." I used to feel sorry for them for not having a father, but now they realize that they were better off without one. My oldest and my youngest have finally matured, its the middle one that still has to grow up but I am leaving her alone. Whatever decisions she makes, she is on her own. I just stand by and watch but will not help. I don't believe in saying either "I told u so." That is like a slap on the face. Sooner or later they will realize what is right and what is wrong. Get as much info that u can on bi-polar. Find a group, they might be able to help u cope with your daughter. Austin, Hooray for your son! Yes, u raised him well. Wish your granddaughter luck and happiness in her very near future. Have a good day everyone. Maria

Now she is better off DEAD because of the cats, I knew I would have problems even though she said I could have them. I just want a life that no one gets mad over what I have and I can do what I want. She is right now ranting and raving about his stone and him falling on the porch, this morning it was the cats playing in the rug in front of the stove. She is so fussy about everything. I can't stand her.
My youngest has registration for high school today between 2 and 3pm. And after today he is grounded for a week. I wish I could ground my mom LOL.
Having some pains in my left side today and some other issues I may have to contact the doctors office for me next.
A friend of my son's went away to college over the weekend, my son is going to a local college in Oct.
Its scary how many people my need psyco help? Maybe I am next. Judy

Hi Girls
Looks like a stressful day ahead. Just got back from Curves and mother sets in on me about leaving the light in the kitchen and living room on when not necessary. Then she talks about how I brought up once the cost of our heating bill that went up during the winter and how her big portable heating might need to be exchanged for a less powerful one or not kept on so much and since then her hypersensitivity kicks in and she feels she is the electricity monitor pointing out how WE waste electricity and makes our bill go up. She said that when she lived with my brother for six months she never had to pay anything and he never talked about electricity bills etc. I told her he has a lot more money and that I know she gives me money but I'm not making a profit off of her. That she offered me the money per month and the amount and that it is a good thing I took it cause it is helping with the costs of everything (didn't go into specifics but I am not feeding her my dad and my sister...they dont eat much but she is so picky I have to have a variety of food and cook everyday..have veggies cooked too etc). I finally told her she should go live with my brother then. (hah) He actually asked her to leave and put her in that senior residence where she lived for 17 months..out of which I took care of her and went everyday for 9 of those months before taking her in here. These people are so full of crap that I feel like leaving her..esp her. I told her that nothing is ever enough for her. I told her that she doesn't appreciate anything I do or appreciate me. She said see what would happen if she didn't have money? What would I do then? I said seeing that I don't have much I would do what I could and then ask my brother or the government for the rest. I said you do have some money though so why are you talking and worrying about it. Bottom line..she wants me to do ALL I do and pay for everything too while her money stays in the bank. That way she doesn't have to worry about running out etc. She was basically saying my brother did everything for free he paid her share. She said to me..."Taking care of me Hah" Which means...that I am not taking care of her cause she has to give me money for some of her care...right now I am angry at her and feeling very very stupid and unappreciative. I told you girls last week when I saw a pyschologist for my pending surgery she said I was either CRAZY or strong to take that kind of money in. Right now I am feeling crazy. After all the things this woman has said to me..after all the ways she was not and is still not and will never be there for me. After how she wants me to be there for her though...I should do nothing for her...I owe her nothing. And I wish I could do just walk away and be okay with it. Oftentimes I hear how we hate our lives... I don't have a life...at least not for me. I Live for her and dad and now sister. Why? Why do I continue on against all this negativity and ungratefulness...because I feel sorry for her...because I am compassionate...because I have love for her and know without my help she will suffer even more then she did at the senior residence...but it is hard so hard to be the bigger person...when she doesn't deserve it not one bit...at least not all this that she gets from me.
The nerve of that woman. She is trying to say the reason why my sister is suffering so is because of the bad times she gave my mom. She said her friend told her what goes around comes around. She said she hates to say that about my sister but it's true. Then I said well if that is true that I should get a lot of good happening to me. Then you know what she said? She said yeah, but probably when you die. I said what good is that then..if I get good things happen to me when I die. I am gonna take off soon from this woman...when and if I have this surgery I have to remember to take care of me and not her. I am so stressed out that I am not losing weight..I may not be able to get the surgery they won't do it unless I lose some weight. I can't lose weight I keep eating to get through this. Lord have mercy on me and help me...I wish the same for all my friends here...Not a good day girls for me already. Thankyou so much for allowing me to vent. It helps me last another day so I can give and be there for an unappreciative and ungrateful MOther.

I hope you all are doing better then me..
Cindi

I had started writing a note and the damn thing went blank on me. So here it goes again. Judy, the cats are yours so enjoy them. Does your mother pay for their keep? If she does, then she can complain, if she don't, she has no right. About your dad, if she can take care of him, then tell her to do it and stop complaining, if she cant then she can just be quiet. She has to have an out let too the bad thing is that she takes out on you but you can ignore her. Easier said than done, but we all have to learn. Cindi, why did your mother leave where she was? If she is concerned about her money dwindling with you, you should send her back. And maybe you should. That will give you some peace at least for a while. We are the children of our parents not their parents. IF they are fine for several hours alone, we can go out without worrying about them. If they are not in danger because we won't or can't do something for them right away, they will be fine. WE have to start being selfish but there is only so much that we can do. None of us are superwomen, only human. And as such, we also need our time and to learn to take care of ourselves instead of trying to please everybody else. I am learning to say no and to be strict with myself if I feel I am going to say yes. I have the life that I want and need at the moment. Things will probably change in the long run, but for right now, I am finding myself because I need to. I had to learn again as to who I was and I feel much better. I am not a mean person but I can be a real bitch if pushed. I can cut anybody with just words and they won't be a lie. If I ever have to say something, its because it is the truth. That is why I don't have many close friends because not everybody can take me as I am. And those people, I don't need them in my life. So lets learn to find ourselves among all the things that happen to us. Maybe we can be a little bit happier. Love, Ply

Cindi
I think that if she was my Mon she would be back in a senior residence asap!

cindi and Ply, I hear you loud and clear I find myself wanting to quit the things I like to do because I am tired of what I do at home. My boyscout season is going to start and I don't feel like doing it. Either I find something else to do or I continue to volunteer.
I went with my son to school and it took an hour and a half I am tired. He has a hard schedule to me he thinks only two classes will be tough.
Hubby has a cold, not feeling well but he never misses a day of work.
Dad is in pain and wanted me to call the doctor I told him that is why you can take pain pills. The hospital called to follow up yesterday that was nice.I try to tell him that he had the stone crushed two times real close together and that is why it hurts so much. I will have to go get his x-rays done tomorrow.
Money has been the focus in my family forever my parents made their life money and my Dad is tight and she is even tighter. We split the bills and I give her money and she writes the bills out, I pay the cable and telephone and don't ask her for any of the bill. I buy the groceries and she gives me some towards the bill but I am always running to the store for something.
She paid for the airconditioning repair and if I hadn't told her I didn't want to hear about the repair for the rest of my life I would still be hearing about it she thinks things should last forever and you shouldn't have to fix them. I put in new carpet in the great room and I will be paying for that in January.
Cindi, I am a stay at home mom too and don't have an income of my own my husband pays for everything. I used to work for a clothing store when I was younger for 7 and a half years, the I worked at Dollar General for one year, then I did estate sales part time, had to quit because of Dad. Thank God I am thrifty and not high maintenance LOL no manicures for me. I don't mind. Tho I wonder what it's like.
Take care of you and do whats best for you oxoxoxox Judy

Cindi and Judy, i can relate to your problems with the ungrateful old witches. I have one of my own. She told my bf that the doctor told me that she should never be left alone. that is untrue. doctor never said that. She is still whining to go someplace, hell, i dont know where to take her, maybe the nearest nursing home? i am so sick of her complaints and ungratefulness. (still driving the little p/u with bucket seats, too high for her to get into hahahhahaha) And judy, i can relate to the fact that you dont really want to do the volunteer work,. I feel much the same. I used to love having company, and a friend who lives a few hundred miles away called and said that she was going to come visit me, and i felt like, oh no, cant handle any thing or anyone else. Again today, she snidely told the home health nurse that she was going to outlive me, because i smoke. hoopty do. i cant quit now, gotta do something with my hands to keep from choking her. And she honestly thinks that and is gleeful about it. no real mother would want to outllive their children, but she is not a real mother, just an old woman who, unfortunately had me. now, i am the one who listens to all her bs all the time. Even if my brother had lived, he would not be able to take care of her, and it would still fall to me. Cindi, i am praying that you will be able to stop the nervous eating and have the surgery. I know you need it for your healths sake.
Judy, you enjoy your kittens, tell her to go ahead and die if that is what she would like to do.
love all of you, Donna

hello ladies, sorry every one is having car troubles, cindi i have an idea actually this could work for many of us, let your sister move in and then when no body is looking, ill come and get you and we can find some where to live with out those ungratefull parents. maybe we could start our own version of the witness protection program. haha will call it the CAREGIVERS PROCTION PROGRAM. I will come and get you (just pack your underwear and a few photos) in a car with dark windows, we will only reamerge from hiding for there furnerals . wouldnt that be great. ply we should get to gether for lunch ill come and get you. iits about 30 minutes from my work to the border. it would be great to meet all of us in person.work is going well got our fingers crossed that every thing gets done for next thursday. I will say a prayer or all of you as usual . have a better tomorrow. mia

OMG girls,

I read all of your entries and Cindi, sweetheart, I feel for you. My mom and dad too, have a good bit of money tucked away and like you and Judy, I do not work and contribute to the household. My mom pays 1/3 of my electric bill, pays her own phone bill and a piece of the cable bill, but does not think she has to put in for the food bill. She buys her own little groceries, like cereal, milk, coffee, etc., but I am doing all of the cooking. I told her she should give me money for meat. I am buying two extra peoples food. She asked what did I think would be fair. I told her I didn't know, and I don't want to get down to figuring 1/3 of my food bill. They are so cheap and there is no way she could go through her money, unless the nursing home gets it, and she would rather see them get it than her own children. We have been begging her for 20 years to put her money in someone else's name so they could keep it for her, but she trust no one, no even me.

When you said they are never satisfied with what you do, that is the truth. No matter what they only think of themselves. When my daughter called to ask to come live home, my first thought was, NO! not another problem in the house. Then I started feeling guilty, like I was choosing my mom and dad over my daughter, but they did pay for their addition to the house. I told my daughter that I could not take any more havoc.

She said something today that made me realize that I raised a child that has no heart and no character. I always knew she had no heart, but I thought she had some character. She told me if she could have her old boyfriend back that she would not give the boyfriend she is living with a second thought. I can't tell you how this hurt me for this boy. She made a 6 month lease committment to live with this boy and bought a dog with him also. I told her if nothing else, if she leaves him, she needs to work to pay half his rent. He could have went and lived at home with his mother. She said, she didn't care. I told her right there and then, not to ever call me again. I told her I do not want to talk to her, that she has no character. I told her to find her own way and that she could not come home. I may regret this, but she has abused me all of her life and I can't take it anymore.

One thing that god has given me and I just figured it out. I have to much feelings. I feel for people too much. I am like you and Judy, I have never had my nails or toe nails done, never have highlighted or dyed my hair. The only luxury I allow myself to have is to buy knick knacks for my home. That is not doing it for me any more.

Donna, I laughed out loud about having to have something to do with your hands or you will choke your mother. I feel that way sometimes and I definitely love Sha's bag over the head thing.

My 12 year old said she threw pennies in one of those fountains in the mall and wished her maw maw would die for the way she treats me.

Donna, my mother also wants to outlive me. She is always making comments in the car when we have had some near misses, "kill yourself, but don't kill me". When I tell her that is horrible, she says "well"....

I HATE HER, I HATE HER, I HATE HER AND I DON'T WANT MY REWARD WHEN I DIE, I WANT IT NOW.

Hubby is still sick, worried about him and please keep telling me not to give in to daughter.

Love to all of you,

Marylynne

Mia I am laughing! COME and get me!!!!!!!!!!!

Tired..gonna try to get some sleep tonight....

Hugs and sweet dreams everyone
Cindni

MLV3000
Do not give into daughter times 365. Got another nasty call from the husband-he knew I would not be home -he does not know what MY PROBLEM is. He will be comming home from rehab soon. We are having a meeting with the social worker today so I'll have to see him but going to the senior center today to sew cancer pads for an end of life hospital- we old ladies have a ball we laught for the whole three hrs.-each week I try to give hubby away- may have to sell him ob e-bay- ? I've been told I would miss him if by chance I outlive him which will not happen- HE has no stress-by the widows at the center-the ones who are divorced know I WOULD not. Talk to you all later- you all keep me going.

My dear friends, it horrifies me to hear your stories. I can hardly believe the way your own families treat you. If they could only know what it would be like if you were not there to care for them and take them in. What a passel of ungrateful human beings. Shame on them all. Such selfishness. Maybe someday you all can teach them a lesson by not being there for a change and let somebody else take up the slack. Let's see who will step up to the plate. Ha, probably nobody! I'm so angry hearing all of your stories, I want so bad to find a way to make everything all better. But I know that is impossible.
None of you deserve to take any crap from ANYBODY. Sometimes what we need to do is just put our foot down. We need to assert ourselves, make our feelings known, lay down some ground rules and those who don't like it can go elsewhere. Where I'm from we call it "put up or shut up". I'm just so angry right now. This is so not fair. None of us asked for this but we got it anyway. Damn it all.
Today is my birthday and yesterday my mammogram was not good. I'm told I have a complex cyst and will go next week for a needle biopsy.
(Happy F'n birthday to me, right?)
If you have a moment, please remember me in your prayers. I know it's a lot to ask, but I don't want to go through what I did last year, enough already.
Love you all,
Sha

Sha, I am with you.Nobody has to put up with shit unless we let them. It is up to us and like you said, we have to put our foot down. I am sorry that u had an abnormal mammogram. I will keep you in my prayers and even if it is not the best, Happy Birthday. Enjoy whatever u can from today. Love, Ply

Thanks Maria. I'm doing my best to stay optomistic but deep down I feel it will be cancer again. I'm thinking of doing the double mastectomy and be done with it once and for all.
Tonight my boyfriend will take me to my favorite restaurant. I asked my mother to come too. I hope she behaves. I have not told her of the findings. I want very much for her to go visit her sister in Florida but if she knows I have this she won't budge.
Love,
Sha

If u think that is the best recourse, then do it. Enjoy tonight even if your mom doesn't behave altogether. Have some fun cause the load that has been handed to u now is a heavy one. Don't say anything to your mom if u think its for the best. May God bless you.

Love, Maria







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happy birthday Sha we love you!!! Sorry to hear about you results hope for the best.Took dad for the x-ray and dropped it off at the doc's office.
It's hard to lay down ground rules after they have been living freely and behaving like they do, I tried to have a family meeting sometime after we were living together and my mom would not have any part in it she said I am not going to be told what to do.
marylynne I too do all the cooking and 99% of the cleaning. Funny thing my dad said your mother is saying that I am annoying he asked me if he was. I said only when you yell for me 20 times and I am in the middle of something.
donna I'm sending you a BIG HUG !!! ( ) And everyone else a :) oxoxo Judy

Sha,

Happy Birthday sweetheart. I will say my prayers that it is just what it is, a complex cyst. I have not had breast cancer, yet, but my mammograms come back abnormal every year. I have had three needle biopsies and the last mammogram 15 cyst in one breast.

I hope and pray for you that you will have just a cyst. Don't worry too much, you have been through all of this before and you are a strong person. Like my friend tells me every year with my mammo's What could you do about it? I always same Damn Nothing.

Had a trying day with mother today. She says such stupid things, that it is so hard for me not to say anything back. But, I do not say anything. Today she said, Your taste sure has changed since the Hurricane, I don't like some things that you pick out for the house. I said like what? She said, Lets not start arguing. I said Yeah, Lets not. My taste is my taste and yours is yours.

God, I'm not even allowed to have my own taste. She asked me something in the store and I answered her and she said I answered her snotty. This morning she was vacuuming her own den, which she has never before, and I let her, said If you see crumbs that I don't see why don't you clean them up. I said I don't see any crumbs. But I do.

My life revolves around being a Yes girl to everybody. I hate myself.

Love,
Marylynne

Hi ladies
Bittersweet - You are in my prayers we go seperarly now to a reformed Church and prayers are very important and amazaling most are answered with good outcomes- I am having an ultrasound tomorrow because when I had my mammo there was dense tissue I am somewhat worried about it. Decor 426 it is never too late we have been married almost 46 yrs the first 7 months were good and I just finally got to the point that enough was enough and changed the diamactices of the marriage and got a backbone and said I will not be treated badly any more by you and slowely things are getting at least livable and everyone tells me how good I look and am finally excited about my life and not always so glum and depressed- it was very hard and my husband put up a lot of resistance but I am standing firm. Mlv your Mom said you were snoty -tell her your friends say you are a saint and we all love you.

Dear Girls,

While I was cooking dinner I thought of something I am going to say next time me and mom have a fight. I'm going to tell her Just because she gave me life, doesn't mean I have to give up my life to take care of her and my dad, and that is the God's honest truth. I wonder if that will even get to her.

Love,
marylynne

Dear Austin,

What is your husband in rehab for? And you are right about getting a back bone. I try every day to take a small step for myself. You know, just stand my ground with my mother, husband, daughter, etc. Mostly, I have always stood my ground with my husband, although it never changes how he treats me. Everyone has always walked all over me all my life, because they could. I am so easy going, I would do anything for anybody. My mom and I were best friends up until a few years ago. I don't feel the same about her any more and no matter how many times I tell her how she makes me feel, she does not care.

I hope my parents don't outlive me, I would like to have a life one day.

Don't worry about your ultrasound, got it covered in my prayers tonite.

Love,
Marylynne

Hi Girls,
I want to thank you all for your birthday wishes and prayers for my biopsy.
I feel just like Marylynne though, I look at my mother and say, "this bitch is gonna outlive me, I just know it". I'm 53, she's 84 with no signs of slowing down. I'm cursed, truly cursed.
Her knee x-ray showed that she has arthritis and doesn't need knee replacement, which in my opinion is a good thing.
On Thursday, my Dad turned 87 and aside from his dementia, he's in perfect health. I pray he doesn't make 88 because he is living a miserable existance. I'd rather be dead than to live in a nursing home and be at the mercy of others. But with each passing day, I'm convinced I'll die before one of them. And now with another suspicious mammogram it just confirms my thoughts.
Marylynne, trust me, if your mother is anything like mine, it doesn't matter what you say. They are dense and they just don't get it. But maybe you could say, "It was your choice to have me, I didn't ask to be here." My mother constantly says stupid things too. I don't even want to go in to the unkind things she says. She's unbelievable. She's not afraid to say she doesn't like my taste. Well to hell with her. If it weren't for me she wouldn't even know how to dress. Her taste is terrible.
But yet she'll make a face when I buy something for my house.
I want this nightmare to be over.
Judy, Donna, Austin, Cindi, Maria, Marylynne, Mia...you are in my thoughts and prayers. Sometimes I feel I have no right to be here, my troubles pale in comarison to yours. My main complaint is I just plain old hate having my mother living with me. She's such a miserable person at times. I'm bitter. But it helps that I can come here and vent.
I hope you all have a decent day today....no BS from the family.
Love you all,
Sha

Hi everyone
My husband is in rehab this time because he has MARSA and two other bad infections in his wound on his foot where he had the two toes removed-he had been dicharged too soon from the hosp. and also from the nursing home-I tried to tell them but for some reason no one would listen to me-after all I was only the caregiver for him since about 1992-what do I know! He had to be readmitted to the hosp. and then to a nusring home for I.V. meds twice a day and serious P.T.- He could barely walk and very poor balance and the cops are getting tired of stoping doing their real work to come pick him up off the ground and floor and taking apart our cadalic of walk in tubs we had to get for his safety. I could not take him by car twice a day to the hosp. for I.V.s I did it years ago for 6 weeks every day and it was a nightmere once a day took most of the day and I almost ended up in the psych unit- which might not have been a bad idea-I would have gotten rest. We had our meeting with the social worker and team yesterday and he is comming home SEPT 6. He was very nice to me yesterday after me staying away for five days-maybe it was just the clean clothes and treats I brought he was happy with. He did not mention my ultrasound or my problems with R.A. and fibro-it will always be all about him-well s---- it I am blessed to have all of you to care about me. You are all in my mind and my prayers.

Austin, my Dad just had MRSA. So I know what you are talking about. The good thing for us is, he's already in a nursing home and is getting his dosage there. What a nightmare for you to have to go through. And I know about the RA and the Fibro. My very dear friend has that along with Lupis. Why do some people have all bad luck?
God Bless honey,
Sha

When you have a crazy family it is hard to stay sane. Mom says she can't stand my sister and feels yucky toward her because sister is wanting to get involved with almost any man that wants her. Sister is getting better but wants to have someone else who will take care of her and love her. Brother is staying away from the family he has been irritated at mother. I am irritated at mother since the other day when she said I should take care of her and not charge her any money...which btw she offered at the beginning as an arrangement. I am upset at my daughter for agreeing with my email that I was feeling a bit crazy. She said yeah, you sound a little nuts in your email don't let the craziness in the family affect you....well that statement hurt my feelings so I sent her an email. On top of all this sister moves into her apartment tonight and out of ex fiancee's house...will be her first night she sleeps in apartment alone I am crossing my fingers that she makes it and doesn't bug me. Anddddddddd my mother's grandchildren on my half sister's side are coming to see her today. They haven't seen her in over 23 years. My mother and half sister of mine do not get alone well (surprise!...huh) so grandkids stop seeing mom too. Now that they are grown and mother is old they want to see her. So, this is going to be an emotional day no doubt. I don't think I am in a good place to handle it..but oh well. My hormones are out of whack too which I think is affecting my emotions..gotta love menopause. I have to clean this house today before they come at 3. Suppose to go to dinner with them...but mom is being weird saying "they are coming to see me" meaning her....so what does that mean I told her..are we not to go to dinner just you guys? She said my brother is going to go to dinner...cause one of the grandsons is a police officer in Los Angeles and my brother wants the contacts. So, I said hey we are family too you know..if brother goes so should we. My crazy family dynamics. It never ends. I am thinking maybe I won't go afterall and go out to dinner with husband and dad and possibly sister on our own. Would like sister to go with the rest of the family though. I am so burnt out on my family that I just want to get away from them..esp mother and sister. Am sure I will have to hear more unpleasantness about my half sister from my mother..and about grandsons from my mother. The woman takes every act towards her as a slight and then complains on and on about it. Unless you kiss her azz she is not happy. Oh yeah and do things the way she thinks and wants you to do them..and then possibly she won't say bad things about you...I wish I could turn around and let them all drown in it...(the sh*t...their sh*t)...Their stuff affects me and I am tired of it right now. Well all the time but it is getting more to me right now. I am getting myself worked up and just want to dump their azzs.

Hope you all are doing okay...
Cindi

Cindi, I think you should pack your bags and run away from home. You don't need this crap.

Cindi,

Amen, sister, you just described my mother to a tee. You think they were separated at birth. Don't take their shit throw a fit and don't go out with brother. Take husband and go out by yourselves. Feed dad and take a break.

Took mom three days in a row to shop at this store she likes about 1/2 hour away. Then she complains that she can't ride in the car too long. Well, I'm taking her for her, not me. AAHHHH!!!!! I am completely and mentally drained.

love,
marylynne

Love,
marylynne

Hi girls, having alot of frustration with Dad, he keeps moaning in pain. I told him I will have to call the ambulance to take him to the hospital. I called the doctors office yesterday to find out more and never got a call back doc is suppose to go out of town and another doc may have to finish up with Dad still waiting to hear now its the weekend. Dad doesn't seem to want to eat much I bought nutrition drinks today.
I have a very short fuse.
Cindi, maybe they can help you with your mom somehow, I like the idea of them taking your mom out to dinner and you go to dinner with your family.Later, Judy

hi everyone, I really hate to whine so much, but my mother is the devil in disguise. She was reading the paper a while ago, and she said, well; i have found a place for don to live. I said mama, let me tell you this for the last time. Don lives here with me, because i want him to. I would marry him, but because of my finances, it would be stupid to lose my income. He is not going anywhere. Then i just went out and washed my sons pickup, because i didnt want to get into any other arguments with her. then, don came in from work and i was still outside, and she asked him when he was going to find a place to live. he said, I have found it. lol. now she is pouting, and hasnt spoken one word to me since i told her that. she is still the same controlling old witch that she always has been. she needs to go away or else i need t go away. love, donna