She is getting a little demanding. I talk to her everyday. The last time I posted in here was about the white blouses. I had been bringing home her clothes to wash at my house and my dryer is on the fritz. I didn't mind it but she had gotten used to me collecting her clothes...bringing them back. Actually it was working out but now the conversations are 'I'm out of clean clothes, I need this or that.I haven't been visiting her as much and to be honest I just haven't wanted to.Even though I'm minutes away.I've been in a pretty bad funk for awhile now. Trying to sell the house, etc.I've started seeing a therapist but it doesn't seem to be helping. I'll keep going anyway. I've looked at some older threads in here that are similar to my situation.The one person said their parent (mother) wouldn't leave her room and try to socialize. That's where I'm at. They like her there. Always tell me how sweet she is, etc.I'm just struggling with the big decisions on the outside.Maybe if I schedule visits and stick with that, it would help.
You need a break from her. So take one. You've got a lot going on right now and dealing with her complaining and demands is not a priority. If she is safe, clean, fed, and her medications are being taken care of, you can take step back and only visit once or twice a week. You need to take some time and it's okay to include yourself in your own life.
If she doesn't want to socialize, that's on her not you. Geaton in the comments is right. You're not responsible for her happiness. She has dementia so you will not be able to please her. She may be nice as pie to the staff (which is very common) then turn on the demands, complaining, and orneriness when you come around. So let the staff deal with her while you take care of yourself and the business of selling the house.
You know, your mother may be getting on very well and adjusting to facility life. I was a staff supervisor at an AL. We had residents who were very pleasant, social, and the life of the party. The second one of their grown kids or grandkids called or showed up, it was like flipping a switch. The gloom and doom, misery-spreading, complaining, demands, and orneriness would start. I remember one who would tell her daughter she was starving because the food was so terrible. One day I asked her in front of her daughter and granddaughter why she was on her third plate from the buffet if the food was so bad. The food at the AL was so good. Like a really good restaurant. When family visits or calls, they turn it on.
Don't worry so much about your mother. She will be fine if you cut back on the visiting and give yourself a bit of a break.
If the facility has an Activities Director talk to them about encouraging (or tricking) her into doing more at the facility. You cannot be her Entertainment Committee. You don't have to give her a reason for visiting less -- don't even bring it up, don't mention any change, just do it. Change the subject and keep the calls short.
My 97-yr old Mom lives next door to me. Sometimes I go an entire day without going over there, just calling to check in. She calls me and obsesses over minutae or things that aren't important and just drains my time and patience. It takes practice. The therapist isn't going to wave a wand and make the difficult emotions go away... you have to practice it and remind yourself that you aren't obligated to orbit around her because it doesn't improve anything and just robs from your daily life. You're on a marathon with her on this journey. It will only get worse so you have to train yourself to ignore certain things.
You can do it!