Is anyone else having a challenge of doing things scriptural, verses what the secular world says. As in scripture says to put others before me whereas the secular world says put me first. I know what is right, just wondering if others may struggle with this. And how do we mourn the loss of ourselves without sinking into depression? How do we have joy in the midst of our trials and tribulations? It seems that as time passes my patience doesn't hurt as much, (must be experience), but still everyday I start wearing down where my patience begins to hurt a little and I am struggling not to let it be seen. I spend a lot of time in prayer and in the word, that is the only way I have the strength to do this, putting myself aside. But as a faulty human being, I am still in a struggle and seek like minded individuals who understand. May God bless all those who are loving their loved ones to the best of their ability.
Indeed they are. I will always miss my greyhound. I was truly blessed to have him as a part of my family. He was a sweetheart!
I’m forever grateful to Greyhound Pets of America. They are amazing to volunteer with. We have an incredible group of volunteers at our Louisiana chapter.
Yeah, well we all know what is behind the horse and dog races. The almighty dollar! Sickening, isn’t it? It’s all about the money they make. It’s gambling. They are in it for the big bucks! They don’t care about the animals.
Llama, you have spent time with the greys so you see how special they are. They are amazing dogs. Smart too! Isn’t it funny how dogs have an internal clock? My dog knew when my daughter would be coming home from school and he would stand in the foyer and wait for her to walk through the door. Isn’t that the sweetest thing? I never knew that I could love an animal as much as I loved him.
Oh, and here in New Orleans. We have a very old horse track. I think it may be the second oldest in the country. It’s been around a long time. Anyway, horses race. Some have been caught drugging the horses. Horrible. Now we have the exotic animals racing too! Just gets crazier and crazier, doesn’t it?
I often think of that old song, ‘God bless the beast and the children.’
—Betsy
They told me to start slow and not burn out soon into our journey. I was overwhelmed and determined, so I didn’t take that advice. Now I see clearly. Take time and enjoy the present. Recovery will come at its own pace.
—Yvette
Live for the day, don’t give too much thought to tomorrow, next week, next month or next year (you will only drive yourself crazy). You may have a “different” kind of life than what you are used to, but by understanding how to care for yourself and your loved one, it can be a wonderful life.
—Cory
It helps when you repeat yourself for the 10th time that you act like it’s the 1st. And when you can laugh about stuff, together especially, it will make your day better.
—Ami
It’s okay to cry when you’re by yourself. It helps your soul.
—Jeannette
Remember that you have suffered a loss too, but the person for whom you care has truly suffered the most — and will continue to do so. I don’t diminish the caregiver effort, but I do ask that it is done with focus on the person who has the TBI — the one who struggles each day to maintain and make sense, who knows that he is not the same but yet he is the same.
—Jody
Try not to take things that might be said out of frustration and fear personally.
—Shelly
Be patient with your loved one and with yourself.
Take time for yourself.
Ask for help and accept it when it is offered.
Take one day at a time.
It’s a marathon, not a sprint.
“For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.”
John 3:17
You are so right. Caregivers certainly can’t do it all by themselves. Sometimes people burn out trying to do everything. I know that I did!
There were times I just couldn’t ask for help. I would have given anything for someone to offer help. It gets exhausting and depressing to continue asking for help only to hear excuses of why they can’t help.
I totally get the split second decision. I had the same deal with my mom when she became homeless from her home being destroyed in Hurricane Katrina. It’s terrible when we are in shock and no time to seriously think about things logically.
In retrospect it was the worst decision of my life. Well. since I burned out. now my brother and SIL have to deal with it. Unfortunately, it destroyed my relationship with all of them and I have no further contact with any of them. So sad.
People really shouldn’t place the burden on making a caregiver to ask for help. They should offer to help sometimes. It’s a shame.
So hard in your case, living in another state. So often families are spread out all over the map. Makes it more complicated.
My daughter is going to graduate college this year and God knows where she will live. New Orleans isn’t known for paying the best salaries so she is going to interview all over. I don’t blame her.
Who wants to get paid less after studying so hard at school? She’s thinking about Colorado. She sent in a job application to a company in Boulder. My baby will go from flat Louisiana to the mountains if they want to schedule an interview.
My daughter is excited to finish school this year. Lots of studying. I can’t wait to see her graduate.
On National News, still conflicting reports, but shooter is either dead or in custody.
Hubs was sick with a sinus infection, went to work anyway, with police and ambulance flying past us in traffic. So sad. I was so scared, still in tears. Feels like a war zone.
Drove near there, against my better judgment, because of his needs. Got home, an alert was on my phone to stay away from the area.
A caregiver needs to follow their own rules, own heart, own common sense before the needs of others. Imo.
How very scary to have such an awful thing happen again and so close to home.
These school shootings keep happening all over the country and other public shootings too.
Our world is so scary &We never know what awful thing will happen next.
God be with everyone,everywhere~
It is mind boggling when these incidents occur. I’m so sorry this has happened so close to home for you. I am very grateful that you were not harmed.
I will pray for you, your husband and all in your area.
Hugs! Take care 💗
Llama- no apology needed, for anything. You can talk about whatever you want here, with whomever you want.
So, as you were. :)
Praying for all my fellow caregivers.
Thanks for being our prayer warrior on this site. We surely do need one.
Your daughter is graduating college.
Lamalover.
Your daughter graduated college decades ago.
My own granddaughter graduated college only a couple years ago.
I agree with Smeshque,
There is no clogging here.
No apologies needed Llama.
I felt free to come here to announce the tradgedy needing prayer by the people I know are Christians. Thank you for your prayers!
God is very near to the broken hearted.
It must be so sweet to have a granddaughter. I don’t have grandchildren. It’s such a special relationship, a grandparent and grandchild. I have a grand puppy though! A cute little french poodle who doesn’t know he’s a dog! Hahaha
Well, Today was the third year anniversary of losing Dad.
As I said before we have been doing sort of a tribute dinner every year, and I had planned one this year as well.
However, Mom decided she did not want to have a dinner this year. So I cancelled it. Whatever she wants to do I will do it.
She said she would rather just get away for the day. So we did that.
I had great concern that her not wanting the dinner was due to great sadness. My other thought was that maybe she is not over it, but yet healed. You know?
So I didn't know how to react, I just took cues from her.
So we went on a road trip today and went to some museums and had lunch. She had a good day, which means I had a good day and the Lord brought us through this day, with no tears.
She spoke of things she and Dad experiences like when we saw certain things on the journey. But no tears and no sadness. I thank the Lord so much, because I think we are all healed from the grief. And can carry on in fond memories and with the hope of seeing Him again.
How Great our GOD is.
“For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.”
Psalms 30:5