Hi everyone this is pintos, I just wanted to let you all know that my mom passed away 3-6-09. I miss her so much! she wasnt just my mom she was my best friend. I know that on a few of my post I was complaining about some of the things that she was doing, now I know that it was not her fault and I feel so guilty! but I know my mom does not blame me even though I blame myself for listening to her Doctor who is an idiot! and pretty much killed my Mom. She died a horrible death and I hate him so much, I will explain later but right now my heart is broke so it is hard for me to talk about it. I still have my dad to take care of he is not doing so well he will not eat nor will he talk much. I feel so sorry for him I now that he misses my Mom so much they were as close as two people could be. now he is in the room confined to his bed all by himself, he just stares at the ceiling. They would have been married 58 years this march 30th. please pray for my Dad and me thanks. pintos
I'm glad you found a geriatric care manager in your area. They are still hard to find. Make sure whoever you hire is properly credentialed. These people can be a Godsend, but there is no special licensing for them yet. It's a growing practice, and most are social workers or nurses. But get referrals and check them. Also, do a background check if you can.
Most of these people are very good. It's pricey, but worth it to those who can afford the services.
Carol
Blessings,
Carol
Thanks Again,
Daniel
i cry all the time even before my dad passed. yeah i know you say things you complain but then you think..........these people gave me life the breath that i take for 58 yrs they gave their time to us and now we give are time to them and then after words we have only memories and if good ways the bad then it tremdous thats the way i feel i went through alot with my family but there is one thing i woouldn't let them and they tried to take dads memory of mom i fought them and i won so let him grieve he will be ok i promised you keep me imformed we can talk darling their was 12 of us and i was the only one and i feel good about that my parents pick me.
Carol
Good luck with this.
Carol
I'm new to this forum,and I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my wonderful mom 2 months and 27 days ago. It's very weird how, with the birth of a baby, you mark every day and month of their new life. When you lose you mom, you do the same because it is all new and really sad. I'm caring for my 79 yr old father now, who does not live with me. He is angry, mean, I think has dementia, has no clue of money or anything because my mom did it all. He also has macular degeneration and cant drive. He has now informed me he no longer wants me to care for him. Well, my brother takes no part in his care, although he is able (thats another post), so I've turned to a geriatric case manager. Hopefully, he'll help Dad and we can jointly care for him. He may have more success than I have. I've done everything in my power to try to help him, and all I get is grief and nastiness from him. He is so difficult.
Again, I'm very sorry for your loss. The hole in my heart will never heal for my mom,and I understand how you feel.
I'm very sorry for your loss. As I type this message I can't help feeling really sad. I'm only 28 but I feel like 60. I can't say that I understand how you feel because I've never lost anyone close to me but I feel the torture everyday. My Mom was recently diagnosed with Terminal Pancreatic Cancer. I am also the closest person to her and well I can't bare watching her die slowly right in front of me. I'm afraid all cancers are a horrible way to die but it's also become a trend apparently. Sorry again for your loss <----even these words piss me off, we shouldn't have to say them, there should always be a way to solve problems. My Mom Wants to live and I can't do anything about it!! She says it like she means it. Take Care Pintos and I will pray for you and your Dad.
Sorry to hear about your lose, I went through a similar experience with my Mother and even though I own a home care company in the Phoenix area and have dealt with these issues since 1979, it was very difficult to get over her death. I received free grief counseling from a Hospice company which really helped me recover. I would call a Hospice in your community and ask them to help you with your feelings and your father's situation. Hospice care is free and a terrific service. Good luck to you and God bless.
Carol
I am so sorry for your loss. The bond between a mom & daughter is a precious gift, we all understand your loss and will be there with you in the days and months to come. You and your family will be in our prayers.