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My husband is not feeling well and I'm getting really concerned. It started with joint ache after working too hard, then he had a fever for a few days, his ankles were swollen too, I got him to go to doctors, no heart issues, negative Lyme, they gave him steroids, he got better, got another fever, lasted about 24 hours. He went for a recheck, I don't think he told the doctors about the fever, I wasn't happy, but didn't want to argue about it. He looked pretty good, I had hoped what ever it was passed. Then yesterday he got his fever back again. Now I'm pretty freaked out. I don't think I'll be able to get him to doctors today while he is sick. I got ahold of a good friend that he respects a lot, see if he can talk him into going to docs, will see.
Anyways, I really haven't liked the way he looks the last few month, and I worry about cancer , he worked in a chemical mill, and worked in waist management for like 20 years, extremely high rate of cancer.
I started an antidepressants 4 days ago, because I just have this bad gut feeling, and haven't been sleeping. There is not much anyone can help with or advice, I'm doing the best I can with a stubborn old fool. That's about it, really not any advice needed. Just explaining what's been going on . Thanks, for listening

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Daisy, may The Lord touch your husband's body and give him complete healing.

Just curious, have you tried the tonic water when he is feeling feverish? You had mentioned that he had contacted malaria in the war and that can show its ugly head anytime.

Great big warm hug to you! Watching our husband's be unwell is challenging.
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Oh crap isthisrealllyreal, totally forgot about tonic water. Thanks, I'll go get some in a bit
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Hi. Probably a dumb question but did the doctor do a complete blood count? Seems so basic I know I have found with my mom so much is told from the blood.. I hope you and he both get some relief soon, him from feeling unwell and you from worry. Hugs.
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No casole, I wasn't happy, because I wanted that done. He has a physical in June so at least if he isn't better, and won't go to doctors then I have that.

Also started wondering if it's long covid , mixed with his usual possible malaria. He got really sick in December, then in January he was still coughing, they put him on steroids, and he started not looking good in March.

I don't usually freak out from his fevers , but this is too much
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Dear Driving daisy,
I have learned that our Healthcare system just checks and treats the main symptoms that are complained about, and then refer to someone else for anything more.
Patients need to be persistent in advocating for their own care.
Unfortunately, your husband seems to be persistent in minimizing his symptoms and avoiding getting any diagnoses. Perhaps he is afraid of what they may find.
My neighbor came home from work with an excruciating and unusual pain in his back. He wanted a diagnosis, but It took 3 months of referrals and tests to finally be diagnosed with bone cancer. Once diagnosed, treatment started immediately. But the wait time to get in to see specialists for further diagnostics was unbelievably long.
Please talk to your husband with tough love. He needs to be aware that this issue is causing you heaps of stress.
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They gave him steroids.
THAT IS HEAVY DUTY VERY POWERFUL meds.
What did they say they were giving him steroids FOR?????
Are they aware of the history of Malaria that RealyReal picked up on?
This is not nothing, and if they are giving steroids and not know what they are giving them for, and he is worse and getting fever and swelling back again, then he needs to see the doc again at the least, and if he is too weak or ill to do that you need to call the ambulance whether he likes it or not and that will get him seen in a cubicle ASAP because he sounds at present much too ill to sit about in an ER for three hours.

So sorry this is going on but you need an answer and he may need a scan. His body is having a huge inflammatory response with the joint swelling and pain. Something is afoot and you must have answers.

Has he ever had a flare like this before? This doesn't come from working too hard.
Sorry Daisy. You need to pursue answers.
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Thanks Jan, good advice, Im trying and we have some friends, more like are kids from another mother, that worked with him, day in day out , so he knows hubs very well, and what is normal and not normal for him.I got in touch with them last night, he will help, I think hubs will listen to him, better. He also has a nursing degree.
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I got him in at 3;45 today, if he will go
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I'll call ambulance if he won't go. His temp is 203.9
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You may just want to call the ambulance now. Follow the ambulance to hospital. Report all the symptoms. This may be an infection of some sort. With you there with him, you can give the docs all the persistent. And medical history. And please be persistent.
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Sorry, 103.9
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Get hubby to hospital ASAP.. If he is still on steroids with a temp this high he is in serous trouble. You can be looking at SEPSIS if you are seeing general joint pain and fever this high.
Jan, you are right, and if there are steroids on board it will cut inflammation and mask an infection. Giving steroids for infection rather than inflammation can cause serious consequences. Sepsis could run rampant and quickly.
I would get hubby to hospital, Daisy, whether he likes it or not. I truly would. He can't be sitting in an ER. If he can't be seen ASAP in urgent care and if there's no one to help get him there, call an ambulance. At least you are here at home and not in another country to address this.
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Ditto to what Alva said. 103.9 fever in an adult is EXTREMELY HIGH and extremely dangerous. I'm surprised he's not having seizures Nacy bc I was at a lower temperature than that as an adult! Please call an ambulance and get DH to the ER immediately!

Good luck.
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They are on their way
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Good. Something needs to be done. A scan or something. "We don't know" isn't good enough at this point.
Will check in later today after my treatment. Good luck, Daisy. I am glad you are going with the paramedics. They are kind and they are efficient and he will get seen right away, not left sitting the afternoon suffering in an infested ER.
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On are way to hospital, thanks guys
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Seriously geaton? You are intentionally provocative, get a life and stop with your passive aggressive bs with me.

I have personal experience with tonic water helping someone that had contracted malaria, obviously AI has artificially inseminated you to think you know it all.
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Wishing you and your husband well. If he's outdoors a lot but tested negative for Lyme, I hope they checked for other tick-borne illnesses (or will do so now). There are some really bad ones out there.
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Thanks guys, ambulance came, his BP was 220/100. We are in ER BP is better and temp is better and doing lots of test.
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Daisy, I pray your husband is okay and they get to the bottom of whatever is going on.

I want to encourage you to not go straight to something terrible is wrong with him. He might have nothing and just an old age struggle but, no matter what he is dealing with, I'll believe with you that every thing will be okay.

Remember to hydrate, eat and rest while you guys go through this trial.
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Best of luck to you and your hubs!
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Thanks isthisrealllyreal, they are keeping him overnight, still can't get his fever down, they said nothing in the test really is jumping out at them. I'm home, his daughter is visiting him now. Im gonna try to relax and get some sleep. I'm drinking a boost right now, try to eat more after a relax a bit
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Ya know geaton your passive aggressive insinuation of "if what I posted was true", really shows what you are. Get thee behind me satan!
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Daisy,
Praying they find out what is causing all of hubby's symptoms. So very glad you called the ambulance! With his BP 220 over 100, he could have had a stroke. Very happy they got that under control.
Men are very stubborn when it comes to their health.
My husband had what I thought was the flu 3 years ago. He had fever that would go down when given Tylenol, then race right back up again. 3 days this went on. He didn't want to go to the hospital. Turned out to be a kidney infection and an infected kidney cyst. What a surprise. No overt kidney symptoms.
I share this story to reinforce that you did the right thing calling the ambulance. When he is diagnosed and treated, hopefully he will thank you. Get some rest. Eat something. Breathe deeply. Tomorrow you can persistently advocate for him.
And please keep us updated. We are all concerned and want to know how he is doing...and how you are doing.
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Jan, thanks so much, to be honest breathing is something I keep forgetting to do. I read what you wrote , and Everytime I woke I would deep breath and got back to sleep.

Pam, thanks, 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

He called me at 5 am his fever broke, at this moment I don't care whats wrong with him his alive!

Thanks so much especially you Alva, and isthisrealllyreal.
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Hang in there Daisy .
Glad to hear he’s improved .
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Daisy, good news that high fever broke.

Continued prayers for both of you and for his medical team.
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Daisy, do they have hubby on Antibiotic.
Don't let them send you home without answers to all of this:
1. Is blood work COMPLETELY normal? If not, what is NOT normal and what would these values mean? What could they indicate?
2. Was hubby dehydrated on admission; could this have contributed to his high temps?
3. Why was hubby put on steroids? Does he have an infection or an inflammation (steroids appropriate for the latter but not the former).
4. Are lungs xrayed and clear; were covid tests done? Is urine without any infections.
5. This was a very high fever; do you have a CAUSE for it? Have antibiotics been given? If they have were they given for a specific reason or because of high fever without a known cause?
6. What was the cause of the joints swelling?
7. Is his know history of malarial in any way involved in this?
8. What are the next steps. If you have no answer to what happened here what should be watch for as far as recurrance? Is it safe at this point for him to travel out of the country?

If they haven't found an answer after blood work, scans, etc to this temp then you may have no answers. All the more important then to watch his temp, his joints, keep him hydrated and I myself would not be traveling out of the country.
If they have a referral to infectious disease or rheumatologist or something, grab it. IF they say they have no answer ask them if they have any best guesses.
Be certain you rule out that this wasn't due to his history with malaria.

Yikes. I know that's a lot but betting they will toss him out today. Be sure you know if they gave him an antibiotic IV.
Good luck, woman.
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Yes he has had a bag of maybe 2 of antibiotics, covid test was done, negative, and they did chest x-ray, cat scan , poo sample, urin sample, and lots of blood drawn. He was extremely dehydrated, got 4 bags of fluids. They tested for something, intestinal infection , they seem to be being very thrual

To add EKG also. That was good and I haven't made the plane reservation yet because of this. So I'm on that already. And will monitor him much better now BP temps. I think he learned his lesson that I'm not messing anymore when I called EMS
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