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Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
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By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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I would have moved to another state years ago so I didn’t have to deal with my mother. She is extremely intelligent and manipulative and blames me for everything . She is 91 and very healthy but physically unable to get around so in assisted living. My husband and I have pledged to zero life saving medications or life lengthening medications for ourselves in order to not get her age.
1 -- Don't expect to reason with a broken brain. 2 -- Don't expect to hear please and thank you; consider it a gift when you do. 3 -- Don't expect others to support you.
Be cautious of others' intentions in your life. Some people only love you for what you do for them (or for the future caregiving they intend for you to provide.)
That validating your decisions and listening to your truth and boundaries is number one.
Don't let the people you take care of, invalidate you. This journey is going to be more difficult than you could imagine. Things will change and you will learn more about yourself and your loved one that you sometimes care to, but do your best to find a healthy outlet, set up boundaries, and learn how to be there for them and show up for yourself.
You are doing your best, there isn't a manual for this. Sometimes, often, you will be the enemy even though you are doing the right things and protecting them. Keep your head up, the love is still there. Remember what you can control and concentrate on that.
Breathe, do mindfulness to emotionally regulate yourself and get some more tlc and therapy to help you along the way. It isn't your job to fix them, just help when and how you can. Boundaries=love, no matter how the other person sees it.
Strengthen myself physically and mentally to be able to sustain through the difficult times ahead. "Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world - Lucille Ball"
Don't "promise" anything that may require you to become their caregiver in the future. Even saying "I will be there for you" can be misconstrued by some that you will be at their beck and call.
It is mentally, emotionally and physically impossible to be all things to all people and admitting/acknowledging that is nothing for which to feel guilty.
Don't make promise that you don't know if you can keep.
Convince mom to get a cancer screening (do it when her doctor said the cancer lump first formed and not wait several years before it was noticed on her own at home) and hope she's willing to listen and follow through with the screening.
If she doesn't listen, be prepared to essentially give up everything, not have a life, and get very few breaks.
1) Boundaries = professional and mental survival. 2) Save for neurological problems that may be the cause, do not accept ongoing verbal abuse or being taken advantage of.
That your best is all you can do, and that that will be good enough. and You are just as important as the one you're caring for, so please make sure you are caring for yourself if you want to survive the journey, which often times can be longer than you ever thought or expected.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
2 -- Don't expect to hear please and thank you; consider it a gift when you do.
3 -- Don't expect others to support you.
Don't let the people you take care of, invalidate you. This journey is going to be more difficult than you could imagine. Things will change and you will learn more about yourself and your loved one that you sometimes care to, but do your best to find a healthy outlet, set up boundaries, and learn how to be there for them and show up for yourself.
You are doing your best, there isn't a manual for this. Sometimes, often, you will be the enemy even though you are doing the right things and protecting them. Keep your head up, the love is still there. Remember what you can control and concentrate on that.
Breathe, do mindfulness to emotionally regulate yourself and get some more tlc and therapy to help you along the way. It isn't your job to fix them, just help when and how you can. Boundaries=love, no matter how the other person sees it.
If you do, please fasten your helmet so it won't fall off while you are beating you head against the brick wall.
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It is not sustainable, not healthy for you or the recipient.
Don't make promise that you don't know if you can keep.
Accept that it is what it is...no fixing is going to happen.
Then provide comfort.
If she doesn't listen, be prepared to essentially give up everything, not have a life, and get very few breaks.
Respite care.
2) Save for neurological problems that may be the cause, do not accept ongoing verbal abuse or being taken advantage of.
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You are just as important as the one you're caring for, so please make sure you are caring for yourself if you want to survive the journey, which often times can be longer than you ever thought or expected.