You have been through the pain of caregiving a loved one and they have passed. So as not to relive the recent pain of caregiving those last days, THIS THREAD IS FOR YOU. To express yourself; be supported by others who have lost their parent, spouse, friend, loved one. A caregiver's grieving and recovering post. If ever you just want to sign in without saying something, put three xxx or three ..., then click post, someone will know you were here, on your special thread, it's yours to say whatever you want. You can even honor your Mom's memory by posting about her.
and others,
Holidays are the times when the memories will be hardest because Mom or Dad are no longer there.
Will you be carrying on traditions, or creating some of your own?
Thank you for bringing this one back up.
It is definitely a year of new traditions. My grandmother passed in October so its the first year we will not spend Christmas Day with her and my extended family. My aunt has decided to host a gathering on Boxing Day instead.
My mother is now cooking dinner at her house for our immediate family. My new tradition includes going to the cemetery to bring a Christmas plant to my father. I wish it wasn't so, but I guess I have to learn to adapt.
Dear Shelli,
How are you? Everything you wrote really resonated with me. I know its not easy. Please know if you ever need to talk, we are all here.
Take care. Thinking of you.
Wow, this came at just the right time. I was just thinking about this post, but not sure I was quite ready to post. Guess I am (sorta :-)!)
Trying to get into the holiday mood, but it is so hard. I am so thankful that we had last Christmas and New Years to celebrate. My town has really spectacular holiday light display and we got to see that. My mom was not sure that she would get much out of it due to the macular degeneration, but she kept marveling at how beautiful it was. She kept talking about it. I truly believe that she was holding on until the holidays were over. She went into the hospital on January 7 and was gone by the 11th.
So Christmas is not going to be easy. I just miss her so much. There are times when it hurts so bad. Yes, I get through. Music is my savior. Sometimes I need soothing music and sometimes I need something crazy loud!
Haven't thought about any new traditions, yet. Will be carrying on with the old traditions. Thinking about decorations and maybe something special to honor her memory. Hopefully, weather permitting, we will be able to get the cemetery (it is a bit of a distance, so we have to plan for a good day). Would like to take something special. Not sure what, but now there are these pretty solar stakes with angels that light up.
So guess that is where I am at right now. Once again, thank you all for being here. It helps to know that there is a safe place for me to come and let my defenses down and let it all out.
Merry Christmas to all and take care!
Shelli
Good to see your post. Thank you for updating us. I have to agree with you, music makes a huge difference. Day by day, moment by moment. We all just do the best we can.
Wishing you a happy holiday season as well. Take care, my friend.