
Mom, has early dementia and just got another roommate and thinks she is responsible for keeping the roommate from falling. The RM has dementia as well, can't hear good and cannot walk. Mom, thinks she responsible for calling the nurse and telling them that her RM needs to go to the bathroom and etc. How do you handle this situation?
I've been to several nursing homes and observed roommates with very different conditions put together intentionally. They'll pair a person with mild dementia that's still mobile and can function with a wheechair-bound, non-verbal invalid. The desired outcome is the resident who isn't so bad off will look after their roommate and this makes the staff's job easier. It's wrong, but I've seen it.
Good luck in getting her moved to another room if that is the route you take.
Is she on any meds for anxiety? This may take the edge off her worrying, or it might not. I would try talking to the admins or staff about it and see if they have any suggestions. She can't be the first person to do that in the facility.