I have no siblings, and was living in Oklahoma when my dad passed in September last year. My aunt took my mom somewhere and refuses to tell anyone even the police what she did with her. I've now moved back to Memphis when she is from, but I have no money for an attorney or even a job at this point. My mother had no money, so I don't understand why my aunt is doing this. My mother had been incapacitated from a stroke since 2007. How can I find out if my aunt has POA, and if so how to challenge it. Please help I need to find my mother. Thank you so much.
As for Humana, they probably won't tell you anything but you could call them just to feel you tried. But if Humana is her health insurance, are there explanation of service notes in there? The reason I ask is that both mine and my mom's insurance providers tell who is providing service and when. If the explanation of service shows that someone goes to specific places, I wonder if you can figure out how to track her down?
If my mother went missing and she showed up for a visit at her clinic, her clinic does have social workers and, I'm not sure about this, but if I told my story, the social workers might get involved to get things worked-out.
Actually, I did not read all the posts. I see that you called the police and the hospitals and such, but did you see if APS (Adult Protective Services) or any social work office can help? I'm not saying that they can, just giving you a couple more things to try.
I assumed Memphis was female but his post of 18 hours ago makes it clear that he’s the son, not the daughter.
Memphis queries in his original post:
“How can I find out if my aunt has POA, and if so how to challenge it.” It seems clear to me that his goals are twofold: find his mother, then challenge any POA that's been granted.
Memphis wrote in his post 17 hours ago that he’s still collecting bills from before his father died in September. He later wrote that the bills were for “euipment, a breathing machine and an electric wheelchair.” If these bills are for his mother, it seems as though she was still in the home recently.
The police knew Memphis’ mother was in a hospital but refused to give out further information. It would appear as though they may have had more knowledge of the situation.
Memphis just found bills for medicine from May of this year, so presumably his mother was living in the home at that time, or that she had left and no address change was submitted.
Memphis found cracked eggs on the stove in his mother’s house. Did his mother leave in a hurry? Seems so.
Memphis admitted he was in federal prison from 2007 forward.
If Tennessee has a victim notification program, and if Memphis' aunt and mother signed up, they would have received notification of his release.
In Michigan, this program provides notice sometimes the day before, sometimes the same day. Not much notice, and not much time to clean out a refrigerator if someone wanted to avoid the person being released.
Read PamStegman’s insightful post of 15 hours ago, comment no. 21.
Are Pam, FreqFlyer and me the only ones who see that the aunt may have removed Memphis mother for her own protection?
I'm not insulting anyone who's trying to be helpful to Memphis but there's obviously a lot going on in this situation and it seems as though law enforcement knew not to provide any information on how Memphis can locate his aunt and his mother. That's revealing.
We don't know the crime for which Memphis was imprisoned, but it appears to have been a 2007 - 2014 sentence. We don't know if it was a crime against people or property, or if it was a crime against a family member.
We do know Memphis is determined, and apparently wants to challenge any POA his aunt may have.
Does someone who's just been released from prison, with a criminal record and no job, have a prayer of a hope to legally challenge (w/o any money) any POA and take care of his mother, and would her sister want this?
It's not my intention to insult Memphis but it appears as though the aunt doesn't want him involved, and she obviously has known her sister longer than Memphis. And apparently she was able to step in and provide care for her sister when needed. Is it really appropriate for Memphis to be pursuing his relatives when they've taken precautions to avoid being found?
You can beat up on me all you want, but I still say there's more to this relationship than Memphis has revealed, and the family doesn't want him involved.
Update. The officer I spoke to in the beginning just called me and said he's been on vacation, and wanted some more information. He said something about this isn't right, and he thought about it the whole week he was out, and he will be doing everything he can to find her now that he is back. He knows my past, and that I am not a bad person, he feels that something is wrong with my aunt. So at least some good news. Thank you again to everyone.
I do think your persepctive differs from that of many people, including me. If my bank account was one of the ones that you hacked, and you stole from me, I certainly wouldn't agree that you "are not a bad person."
If you are on parole in OK but your body is in TN, you might want to get back to OK before your parole officer finds out you left the state. Just saying.
This is beginning to sound more and more like a troll post.
Start with a compelling story, get sympathy, gradually reveal a criminal past, which might be sympathetic if folks believed you've reformed, plea for help finding your mother (who can resist a good sob story??), then change the direction entirely by suddenly announcing she's found. And that post has some inconsistencies as well.
If you aren't a troll, you still need to get a job and begin paying back all the people whose accounts you hacked. You have that obligation, morally and ethically.
You're in no position to care for your mother.
Initially you wanted to legally challenge whoever may have had a POA, now you're saying you have no way to care for her. So why would you need a POA?
And yet you still want advice.
If this was a personal story, it really makes me appreciate my family even more.
Kazzaa and FreqFlyer, I did the same kind of search. I think this is just one variation on a theme. I'm sure Memphis had his story worked out before he posted. And what a convenient exit he had!
It wouldn't surprise me if his mother is healthy and well, or even if she's already passed away.
One would think that someone who spent apparently 7 years or so in the federal prison system would know that parole options are available.
I'm wondering what other parts of Memphis' story are false, or conversely, are there any parts that are true or is this just a whole made up story?
Maybe he's actually a new identity of a previous troll, coming back to play games because he's been dissed before.
You will get what you have got coming. Few flyer, you mean to tell me you know more about the Feds than me???????? Feds did away with parole in the 80's, period. Look up fedcure stupid. The fight aginist this has been going in for years. Thank you to all that helped, **** you to all that made up something to pretend to look good. And yeah say something else and make yourself look even more like a fool....
Again..... Look it up, thT died in the 80s
Like Memphis, she only gave the bare facts. Her mom is gone, her brother took her. How can we help her find her mom. Every where I read here on AC, some people tried to offer advice. Others just completely ignored it. I just felt soooo bad for her because it was months with her posting over and over. I kept encouraging to keep looking but inside, I knew that she would never find her mother - unless a family member was willing to tattle.
Do you know why her siblings finally approached her? They had put their mom in a NH and her mom was nonstop asking for her fulltime caregiving daughter - whom she became very closed to all those years. She kept crying for her daughter. Not once, did I ever doubt or thought she was a troll. I just felt sooo bad for her.
Memphis, I'm glad you found your mother. Is your mom on medication that will help control her high emotional outbursts? Since you're not able to care for her at the moment, then maybe it's best to back off. Find a decent job, get your feet back on the ground. Ask your cousin and the Home to keep you updated on your mom while you try to get back on track. Because if your worse fears come true, and she acts up, and they kick her out - you both will have no money to support yourselves. Your mom needs 24/7 care - which you don't have the funds to cover it. Then she's worse off outside than inside the home. No one can make this decision but you.
My goal was to make sure she was okay, and now that I know that she is, I know that I can just step back and take your advice. Again, thank you so much.
There are just too many holes in Memphis' story to be real. His last post once again reflects another inconsistency.