I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Well, I dropped off the groceries this morning to my parents, before I went to work. Everything looked great. This evening when I called my parents, Mom said the watermelon didn't taste good, and why is the gluten-free bread so expensive [my Dad is trying gluten-free to help ease joint pain and it is working for him].... she said she doesn't like the on-line service, yada, yada, yada.
Unfortunately my Mom's hearing is almost down to nothing, I must have asked her a half dozen times "if you don't like the on-line service, what do you suggest I do since I don't have time to go into the store?".... but she couldn't understand what I was saying.
I know one time my parents came up with a brilliant idea.... I could drive them to the grocery store and leave them off [they are 92 and 96], then come back an hour later to pick them up.... I had to chuckle to myself, a hour later they would be in aisle 10 of 26 aisles. Yeah right, by the time I get home from leaving them off, throw in a load of wash, it would be time to get back into the car and pick them up.
Now, if only they would have moved to that retirement community.... they could grocery shopping every day as the community offers transportation and its FREE !!!
No i will just put my foot down she keeps the cleaner or ill do nothing and i mean nothing ive tried that approach. Mum thinks she has me where she wants me and can do and say what she wants as its her house but thats not going to last long she cant physically do housework so lets see?
Personally I can handle the dust, dog and cat hair for a while (so much to do outside with 2 acres this time of year) but I MUST have everything organized, put away and clutter free. Oh, and I also have a running list of all to do's plus a smaller list of what I want to achieve each day or two. I guess that's my version of OCD :)
She's about six weeks old, tiny and desperate for affection so she's not feral, just likely dumped (some days I hate the human race!). It will be a couple of weeks before she can do a meet and greet with the rest of the gang. Full of fleas, lice and worms she has a huge dog crate in my sun room for now with a radio for company. She's so sweet, full of energy and afraid of nothing. I will be taking down my sheer curtains lol Her name is Lucy.
I have started jobs and had to leave them due to her increasing and unpredictable needs. So essentially, this has become my job with just a little outside housekeeping to add to the household income. So, my income is pretty much 1/2 of the household rent (i.e. around $500). With all that I do and am limited to do, I am grossly underpaid. She could not hire someone from the outside to live here and do what I do.
So even if I were to make what I theoretically should make, I WOULD NOT DO THIS JOB AGAIN IF YOU PAID ME!
The past few months I've been using an on-line service to order the groceries and the next morning, before work, I drive up to the front of the store, give the employee my name, he checks his list, and loads up my car, everything already paid for, takes 5 minutes. Then I drop off the bags at my parents house. Whew, what a time saver :)
Anyway, my whine is that my Mom wants me to still go into the store and get certain items because she doesn't like some of those on-line items [even though they are the identical product]... "it taste funny", or "cost 10 cents more".... ARKKKKK, that is defeating the purpose of me using the on-line service.... to save ME time because I still work.
This on-line service also has home delivery service, I am so tempted to use that, but I know my parents would squawk big time at the delivery fee.
Now, if my parents would have moved to the retirement village, they themselves could go grocery shopping every single day as the village offers that transportation free of charge.
Daughter said, "wow, Mom, I wish others could see how much you're having to do for grandma!"....yes well....as my ex used to say, "Wish in one hand and sh*t in the other and see which one gets full first!"
None of this is fair at all. It isn't fair that she has lost her ability to deal with life. And it isn't fair that I spend so much of my time trying to make things work for her. Those questions we mentioned the other day -- What now? What next? -- are going through my mind. But it could have been worse. The man did call back, instead of showing up at the door. And at least we have $45. I guess I really can't whine.