I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
And when you take the shopping back to their place, then Fido 'accidentally' sneaks into the house too and you get fired for selective incompetence. Result!
Do you like dogs, at all?
Ref the sudden influx of flies, are you sure something hasn't crawled under the foundations and died? Did you get, like, zillions of them in a really short space of time? I don't want to go into details but if it was like that then there could be an ex-mouse (eek!) or similar R.I.P.ing in a quiet corner somewhere. Although all you would find now would be a bare skeleton. Let's not think about it too deeply.
Only draw back to my Jeep, my parents would expect me to run to the grocery store for them, in the middle of a blizzard, because I have four wheel drive.
CM, Oregon has an Aging Agency that does the very same thing. Come out to visit or call, tell you about all the "help" they have to offer, ask all their questions, check off their boxes and .... they seem to vanish. They called 2 weeks ago, said mom qualified for 6 hours of in home care a week. haven't heard a peep from them since. I'd love 6 hours a week. Heck, I will even pay for additional hours!! Anyway, it's lovely they offer so much help and support, it would be even lovelier if they actually followed through.
This house was built in the mid 60's. Apparently my ball of flies have awoken from their winter nap. I don't recall South Florida flies being as sneaky and aggressive as these flies. It has nothing to do with the cleanliness of your house, pets or whatever.... they are everywhere and in everyone's house. Fly swatter's are sold at every store, gas station or quicky stop!! LOL
Thank GOD for my GPS! LOL, I'd be a lost person without mine. It's so bad that when I go into the bigger cities, to the same place I've been many times, I don't remember how to get there without using it. Perhaps I rely on it a bit too much :)
Gonna be 97 here today... I don't think we'll be doing too many strenuous activities aside from floating in my blow up pool drinking my Mike's Hard Lemonade
CM I am right with you about the GPS. hubby at least has found a way to turn the woman off. I would rather use a map and write the route in big letters taped to the dashboard. he says he can't find his way anywhere without it these days. As far as back up cameras go no way nor how they are just confusing. One thing i do love though is a heated seat. my new car - thrify me brought a new car - probably the last car I will own and it did not have one. But guess what on a trip to the thrift store I found one you could plug in and that works just as well and only cost $5
Takes one to know one, I suppose.
But the reason I resent giving this girl my time is that she is the FOURTH person in a row who has turned up here offering "help and support" by which they mean suggesting who *else* might do some helping and supporting. So we trot through the options - not applicable, not applicable, not applicable, over mother's dead cold body, not applicable - and then they go away with their check boxes duly checked. And I am how, in what way, any further forward?
"They *mean* well, darling…" Humph.
"No, I've got an iPhone, " she said.
When I reported this to her (doctor) father he said "tsk! In my day we just had two tin cans and a length of string…"
Oh curse those GPS voices, curse them! Other Half was an early adopter: we once spent a merry half hour driving up the highway with the d*mn woman saying every 30 seconds "Turn around at the next available exit. Turn around… Turn around…" I wasn't allowed to touch it (possibly because OH suspected, correctly, that I'd have chucked it out the window) and he couldn't remember how to turn it off.
Captain I too love the single life ... no fuss, no drama and do as you please, when you please.
Guess that is why I still drive and love my 18 year old Jeep.... it still looks as good as when it rolled off the showroom floor... and it has most of the bells and whistles of today's cars.... what is missing the backup camera, but heck I can turn around and look out the back window.... and missing is the talking GPS.... I can read a map and talk, so no big deal :)
My parents [in their 90's] were teens during the Great Depression so they both taught me well about being frugal and not to try to keep up with the Jones.
Kazzaa – my dad also won’t give anyone POA over him. He ain’t stupid.
Susan – You… You are a much better person than me! I would have lost it when I saw how the painting was incomplete, etc.. You have Patience, woman!! {{Hugs}}
FreqFlyer - shook my head as I read of your cat’s neighborhood friends.
Looloo – Your mom is sooo sneaky! I recommend you read more threads here on AC. I tell you I’ve read some strange and ingenious things they can do!
Jeanette – I can’t stand flies. They are so smart. They find their way inside the tied plastic bag into the food, or find their way into the microwave to get at the food. Sis says our flies are much smarter than the flies at her home.
Cap I am far from bankrupt. Where and why did you get this from? I was asking about flies in my house. I could be OCD clean and they are still here.'
I dislike the buzzing.
I will say it again I am here for my mom who is in 6th stage AD
Flies...ick. On our vacation to the wilds of the U.P. last week, we dealt with one of the worst mosquito seasons ever. Even the locals were running for cover and the stores couldn't keep bug spray on the shelves. We were thankful that for most of the week, the stiff breezes kept them at bay - but those last two hot, humid days of the week were horrible. I could barely take the dog out to do his business without him running for the motel room door to get back in!
Noting is wrong with being frugal.... it's CHEAP. When i was working...man oh man i miss my job, anywhoo., the lady who has worked there for 35 years told me that two words do not belong. Cheap and broke. To this day I say Inexpensive or I don't quite have enough.... We are who we are.
Hey, I set up my pup tent outside. Too hot to sleep inside No, I am far from afraid to sleep outside. So much cooler and I get a peaceful sleep (she can't find me)
Oh, my dog Daphne (13) has no use for cookies. Not from strangers or the vet. She will not indulge in stupid human tricks.
most females ive had contact with in the last couple of years were bankrupt , nearly homeless but still smoking 5 . 50 a pack name brand cigarettes . maybe theyd do good to look more closely at my frugal lifestyle ..
that wasnt a generalization or exaggeration. that is fact in the case of 5 girls out of 5 ..
First off, your appearance is a bit intimidating. Your way of life (nothing wrong with it) is a bit intimidating) your love of liver just sucks a** buddy....
we all know you're a big hearted kind softie on the inside though :)
Cats are different from dogs. Men and women are different. None of us are equals, we just have great things to offer each other.
had a woman on a dating site this am request to see some close up pics of my face . i wrote and told her thats rich coming from a gal who posts pics in a balloonish dress and calls herself thin . its no wonder im single .
frreq, I also have a cat named "Charlie". I rescued her a year ago...no chipmunks for us just snakes and meesees. Lately though since I rescued my big Sidsy ( her name is Sydney and she's an 80 lb American Staffordshire mix) my Charlie only comes around late at night, like 3:00 A.M. she's taken to sleeping in the attic and meowing throughout the night. She's trying to bug sydney - but she likes cats. NO, not for a snack!! LOL!
Ohhh, Susan, so sorry. I said I'd give up my whine for you but....
FLIES. I have never ever in all my life seen so many d*mn flies?? I use bleach to wash the counters/floor/bathrooms, you name it.... pick up all dog poop, but the flies? I have now armed myself with double barrel fly swatters!! Keeps me entertained :)
Anyway, here's my whine -- thought I put the issue of my mother's losing her driving privileges to bed, after devoting most of last week to breaking the news to her, and then explaining again and again, until she seemed to understand. Very draining. Saturday, I get something in the mail from the DMV. It's a notice for the "requested hearing." Evidently she managed this. How, I have no idea. Today, I called to see if I could cancel it. I need to do this by faxing a formal request, and they need to see my POA too. That's about 25 pages. I can't email the PDF. Just fax or mail is all they'll accept. Honestly....
What do you do when its just unbelievable stubborness if anyone saw her youd think i was abusing her burnt head and face? i just dont know how to handle her anymore i mean she was always a stubborn woman but now its a living h*ll with her. They say "cherish" the good times? im seeing less and less good times with her i hope this dosnt last or will this get worse? My friend says she is getting worse but her mum had als so its hard for me to tell. I think she is afraid and is hitting out at me and scared she will end up in a home you just cant talk to her shes so nasty if you say anything.
I just returned home from picking up the critters - birds are happy and cat is checking out the "new" house and no doubt wondering what that SMELL is (paint). He keeps walking around and looking at the walls - you can almost see the gears turning in his little brain. He knows something is very different.
Off now to get the groceries and clean up the van....
Last year the chipmunk that "Charlie" would bring into the house he or she eventually knew the way outside. This current chipmunk is new to the neighborhood so it took my significant other and I two hours to carefully guide the little rascal out the door. OMG, all the dust bunnies behind the sofas and under cabinets... so at least that got cleaned :)
I suspect the moral might be, unfortunately, that there is no halfway house between do-it-yourself, i.e. yourself, and the skilled professional. What really used to stick in my throat wasn't the mess, or the time wasted, or the fact that it didn't actually save any serious money in the end - it was the obligation to smile and be grateful. Even light-hearted quips like "oh! - and you've even done the carpet, too - shall we get another can of paint and finish that bit in the corner?" were misunderstood as base ingratitude.
I picture you and your mother sitting there in the garden with pickets' billboards saying "can we come in yet?" and "is it safe?" Oh boy, what a homecoming! Hope you're both settled in again soon.
We'll get through it - I'm just frustrated with it. And now, when I should be out picking up the cat/birds from the sitter, I'm waiting for mom to come out of the bathroom. She is SO close to a fall, I can almost see it coming. Her back is hurting a lot from the trip, and she requires my help to get up out of bed now, and very tipsy when she walks to the bathroom....I can just see this fall coming, it's just a matter of time. (She will stay in one spot when I'm gone to get the critters and groceries - bed or chair, one or the other.) We have another vacation trip coming up later this year - and I'm worried. I keep asking her if she thinks she'll be able to do it, and she's determined to...so we'll try. Her mobility is declining so quickly, though.
My whines for you kiddo !