I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
The waking thing is normal to everyone. Mothers with little babies, people with jobs, teachers, school kids. Once Mom is gone you will worry about what may happen to you. The darkness scares us all.
Divert yourself. Whether white noise, soothing music, of whatever, divert you mind. Hey, I do true crime podcasts when/if I wake up. One therapist's book suggests you change that night monster into a real monster, acknowledge and welcome it with its boring and repetitive nonsense. Let it go on and on and tell it "But you already SAID all this". Decorate it, tell it it looks silly, whatever.
WE ARE ALL AFRAID sometimes. We are ALL WORRIED sometimes. And you have circular thought out this thing about Mom over and over.
As Dr Laura says, not everything can be fixed.
As the Serenity Prayer says "Serenity to accept what you can't change, courage to change what you can, wisdom to know the difference."
Happy dreams.
That truly haunts me.
Logos are hijacked as well making the email or text look legitimate.
Good rule to follow, never open links on text or email, never call back a different number from the paperwork/cards you receive from your providers of any type and NEVER give anyone remote access to a tech device.
I am sure there are lots more "do nots" but, these are the ones we see causing problems repeatedly.
Venting, I hope that you get some satisfaction with your situation.
I just want to warn everyone again, since I knew nothing about such scams before:
It’s possible for criminals/scammers to impersonate another email address, which looks almost identical to the original one. Sometimes there’s only one letter difference. One really must watch out. It’s also possible for hackers to completely take over an email account.
Sometimes the scammers stalk an email account for a long time, reading all the emails, learning all the details. Then they pounce at the right time and try to grab the money, by re-directing you to another bank account. They can even reply to a whole real past email thread (that’s what happened to me), which is why I suspected nothing. It looked very real, because otherwise how would they have access to the past email thread? The answer: because the email account was hacked.
What I learned:
before making any big money transaction, CALL the person you know so you can verify the details.
You wrote: “In my financial job they'd hack a client email and based on prior exchanges mention a detail or two from those etc, mimicking style. Then they'd make a cash request and oh btw they've changed banks and here's the new banking info.”
This is basically identical to what happened to me. But it wasn’t my email that was hacked.
Several employees who are smart smart smart got ensnared. It's easy to let our guard down when all the seeming "boxes" are checked esp when they drop info that only that person would generally know it seems soooo much to be the person who has been hacked.
A good practice for any of us trying to vet any type of request to pay a bill or for funds....
Again I'm sorry this happened. 🥺
Do not trust @dr.com
Thanks so much for this information on the scam.
They will always find a new way and this IS a new way.
Somehow this hacker managed to get into this legitimate plea for help and get funds put into HIS thing.
I am so suspicious anymore I am quite paralyzed with the whole giving thing. It pretty much has to be hand to hand for me now if it isn't some massive organization I trust. And how many of those are there?
Happy New Year to you too!
I also want to warn you about scammers. It never happened to me before. But I’ve been email-scammed.
This is just to warn you, since it happened to me. I got an email-reply that was part of a whole valid email thread between someone (X) and I. X needed money I was willing to give to X. X is innocent in this story.
That email-reply (X@dr.com) had X’s name in it. I totally believed it was X writing to me. I never suspected anything.
Actually that email (X@dr.com) was a scammer and I transferred money to him. I’m a victim of crime. I reported it to the police.
X@dr.com wrote to me in the same style as X. The scammers are very tricky.
Do not trust emails from @dr.com
So, it's very hot Margaret?
Llama, Yes, beware the little blue man.
I could not post on Aging Care for weeks awhile back.
jenny10 - Good ideas. This thread started many years ago and the OP (original Poster) left some years ago. Generally this thread is used to let off steam, vent, whatever. It has become very useful for that and covers a wide range of topics.
fast food is ok now and again. I think you need to cook and freeze and maybe some meals dont have be be elaborate - an omelette for example - break a couple eggs - whisk - a pinch salt/pepper in a small frying pan - put under grill to cook the top and sprinkle a little cheese on top - 10minutes. Serve with toast or salad. Who doesnt like some beans on toast at times - sprinkle cheese on top and you have a filling meal. Soup for lunch and a roll - boil your own veg with a stock cube or buy if money ok and just heat up. yogurt and banana for breakfast ? bran cereal? - 5 minutes? Serve a drink before dinner - that may regulate the appetite?
Yogurt after meals helps full up.
As for you - maybe time for a switch in meals - and include some healthier options which may be quicker to prepare - you'll have more energy end of day. Good luck. Its not easy but rewarding when you get a good system in place and the benefits to your health - even if its just for less work
If I'm posting about a paper on the whine thread late at night, that means I have two working brain cells, and the rest of my bandwidth is fried. I'm not thinking straight; my brain is on overload.
Great suggestion to check through the Parkinson's posts -- thank you! My goal is to get a more personalized feel for what neuroimaging means to patients. I'm not going to become a radiologist so for me, it's more about how imaging helps or doesn't help folks with PD.
I'm glad to be learning this stuff, indeed. It's just a bit to take in. And some of you are right nerds (i.e., very intelligent and have been around elder care and this forum for a long time).
My fritz-out level is down today. The paper is late; oh well. Thanks again.
Click on Resources at the top of the screen, then on Caregiving Topics, then on P for Parkinsons. 63 professional articles, plus discussions and questions. Then N for Neuropathy, 8 articles plus d & q– no idea if that’s relevant.
In addition, click on the magnifying glass at the top of the screen, type in any relevant term. It will come up with a long list of anything that has included that term. You asked for ‘anything’, and perhaps you aren’t used to searching the site!
Good luck with the paper, Margaret
This paper I'm writing for school on neuroimaging techniques and their utility for Parkinson's is entirely outside my wheelhouse. It is very interesting, but this class is also chock full of terminology I've never encountered, and new info is overloaded weekly.
I can't even call it "writer's block" because I'd have to KNOW something about the topic to have a writing block. This is just... confusion. haha
Well, this stinks. The paper is due (it will be late, and that's not a huge deal), and I'm struggling. Even if I take extra time to do it, I still have to write the dang thing, and that's the problem. :(
*I'm sure some folks around here are familiar with PD, either experiencing it or witnessing it in a loved one. Care to share with me your experiences, anything specific around neuroimaging? Anything at all will do. It helps to have some relatability and relevance for this otherwise dry information. It's motivational to me; thanks for sharing anything that you care to.
Thanks I will leave the tree up till Three Kings day. In fact I may leave it up until Fat Tuesday to honor the people of New Orleans. It's one of my fave places and I have tons of beads. I always thought a Mardi Gras tree would be fun. I have to order my king cake!
Newbie it stinks that your usual inhaler wasn't available. I hope you feel better.
I've had a few call from "the ranch" today so not entirely peaceful, but as they say you can't give from an empty cup. Humans get sick. I feel bad for both of them, this threw off their day and mom has had lot thrown at her this week. She is very mentally fragile. We had gone to biweekly with her psych nurse, I think we need to go back to weekly for a while....
I'm no longer a caregiver as my husband passed away a couple of years ago, so at least I don't have to worry about infecting a vulnerable person.