I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
You are in the Hospital?
No clues yet as to what is going on? I wonder if they saw some arrhythmia and are monitoring you.
If you take any kind of diuretic the potassium can get low. And the low BP may be what's causing the dizziness. Worries me you got sweaty too, but that's likely just going a little shocky. We can dehydrate easily, too and almost all seniors show up in the ER with blood that shows they are dehydrated.
Thinking of you and will check in today for updates about you.
So sorry to hear that .
You are very good about taking care of yourself , you go to the doctors regularly .
This could be just a temporary hiccup.
Sometimes your body decides it needs different blood pressure meds , or a different dose .
And change of season , hot out , dehydration , increase in activity can change things.
My Dad had that happen , BP low , sweating low potassium in the summers, and I realized he had to back off a bit on his diuretic in the summer times . That’s the pill that makes you pee and can make your potassium low .
Try not to jump to conclusions.
Keep us posted .
((((Hugs)))
Tired. Not much sleep, taking BP frequently, low potassium, low heart rate, BP dropping, etc. heart monitor on. EKG, just loads of tests. No eating or drinking, on IV drip.
They don’t know what exactly is going on. Yesterday when I was fixing my lunch, I got dizzy.
DH was working at home. He said that I was leaning on counter, too weak to stand up so he helped me lie on the kitchen floor. Started sweating badly. Couldn’t move for a while.
DH called my doctor and she told him that I needed to get to the ER for evaluation.
Thinking so much about my brother that I lost not long ago from heart disease. He was 72. I am 68.
I want to go home.
If we don't vent, we will blow and that is not healthy for us or our loved ones. So find anything, not drugs, alcohol or food, they just cause more pressure on ourselves, and release that pressure and take care of yourselves starting today!
I agree .
The alliteration “ Rage Room “ makes it catchy .
But it’s a controlled smash room .
The thought of those hatchet throwing places to me is scary . You throw hatchets at a target on a wall I think , like playing darts . There is one by me that is BYOB. That’s a bad combination , booze and hatchets.
I did it a few times after particularly bad days with my mother.
You smash it you throw it away . It put closure on the day .
I would like to try the smash room for fun .
And I should really clarify my last post . I don’t think I ever approached the emotion of “ Rage “ . It was more anger , sadness , grief and stress, depression .
Rage is more violent , loss of control .
I was very in control when I decided to take an item to the garage to smash a few times . I had read it can be calming .
Hubby and I play hockey. It burns off stress. And some cookies.
You were lucky to have parents like that .
Instead of dealing with a narcissist ( diagnosed by the way ) mother who chose you to be her slave caregiver from a young age .
My rage during caregiving was mostly over my own failure to realize sooner that I should have broken free from Mom’s grip much earlier in my life . By the time I realized , it was too late. Mom was an old widow with dementia .
I don’t have rage for others either .
Caregiver rage can be rage because of the stress , grief , exhaustion , etc of the situation . It does not have to be directed at a specific person .
Finding outlets for stress , anger , rage , prevents people from taking it out on others .
I think I never had a whole lot of anger in me. I have known many times when I could not understand, when I was curious, when I wished I had answers or understanding, but I cannot remember a lot about anger. Not ever. And I guess that means I lived a really lucky life, then. I remember when my second marriage failed, a man I was so in love with, and someone asked my Dad why I wasn't angry. And he said "The kid doesn't love many people, but once she loves them she isn't able to stop that".
Loved that man, who, even when I was in my 50s, called me "the kid". He was such a QUIET man, gentle, and so into "observing". Fascinated with others, but not "partaking" and mostly observing.
I think if there is such a thing, he was a very OLD SOUL. Very advanced. Very without judgement of others. Always said "most people are just trying to take care of themselves and those they love". Would excuse wrong-doing (to my mind) way too often with that.
Rage? There is so much I cannot understand. But rage? I can't understand that either. I guess --were I attacked-- were one I LOVED attacked, THEN I could understand blind rage to hit back. Automatically.
It is a fascinating question.
I don't really need to beat anything.
I just long to understand.
Id love to go
I highly recommend taking something you no longer want and taking it out to the garage or outside and smashing it .
Put it in a trash bag first .
I recognized it right away !
I am/was ( depending on the day )
one of those that feels responsible for EVERYTHING .
That’s how I ended up caregiving !!
She said--this psychologist "You can take all the people in the entire world and divide them up into two lines.
One line thinks they are responsible FOR EVERYTHING
and the other line thinks they are responsible for NOTHING. I am going to figure which line you go into, but will tell you that the line with those who think they are responsible for EVERYTHING???
THEY are the easiest ones to treat".
I never forgot her. She shook me up and she shook up my world. She taught me so much and helped me to heal.
OK, so I don't KNOW who knocked who over here.
But the doc and I aren't going dancing any time soon.
And I do hope to hear he's OK. For all I know he could have stoked out right there before the bouquets.
LORDY!!!!!!
N. says they are probably consulting their attorney and the cops will be at the door soon. He is trying to keep the mood light; I will continue to garden and hope I will hear. Otherwise this is something I have to let go of without knowing. I should have taken the number myself. Like I said, it was an overall mess.
If the doc says he tripped maybe that’s the reason you bumped shoulders .
Don’t look to fabricate self blame .
Take his statement that he tripped at face value .
My DD said to me "Mom, did you ever think he could have bumped into YOU" and honestly I never did, but he could have. I guess the many cameras would tell if they could tell ANYTHING in those crowds; I doubt they could. He said to the guard "I tripped and fell" and I said "I think I felt out shoulders bump and I saw him go down. I honestly don't know.
Worrisome to me is that the exceptionally KIND KIND daughter who took my number promised to send me a text today telling me he is OK and it is 1 pm and I don't have it. I know she would not forget about this. And that means me think he could be hospitalized, could be hurt. I think if I don't hear ANYTHING by tonight I will have to think that my partner N. is correct that in all the hullabaloo she wrote down the number wrong. She did the first time and then went to put it in again.
I would feel so reassured to think he is OK, because honestly it is about all I can think about regarding this visit. I have pictures I haven't even downloaded to my Facebook and have instead just downloaded some pictures others took.
Alas.
I will let you all know if I hear anything. The truth is it is no place for old folks like us, but the other truth is that with the flower exhibit most of us who GO are OLD.
I'm relieved you're not hurt, and good for you going to the museum.
I love San Francisco. Fisherman's Wharf and Chinatown were two of my favorite places in the world when I lived there for a bit. I especially love Golden Gate park. I have not been there in many years and from what I see on tv of it, I hope it's not as bad all that.
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If I had to choose what city to me had the greatest art museums and world antiquity to see, I have go with Rome. I think I'd have to go for a year to explore and see all of it properly.
I do love the Smithsonian museums in Washington, DC also. I've been to DC several times and have not seen half of them.
My daughter was buying shoes for a school dance and she asked for platform shoes. They weren’t like the platforms that I wore as a teenager. They were ridiculously high!
I told her that she could never walk in those, much less dance in them. She said, “Mom, everyone dances barefoot.”
Apparently, they just wear them for a short while before they take them off.
I have always gone barefoot at home.
I kick off my shoes as soon as I get inside.
My husband is a slipper kind of guy. I am not a slipper kind of gal. My daughters love slippers.
Backwards . Maybe if he did that before he wouldn’t need Trulicity.
Anyway , last month he went for his yearly diabetic foot check at the podiatrist, who cut calluses off both feet for the first time and gave DH a 10% coupon for new sneakers and sent DH to a running store for more appropriate walking sneakers .
He said the owner helped him . She made him walk and she watched how his foot hits the ground to decide which was the right sneaker for him .
My daughter is a runner , she’s gone to this store as well for her running footwear . They helped her as well. She has flat feet and her ankles turn in . She said it’s a Mom and Pop store . And it’s right near my house .
I even have the foam type Birks for the beach & 'nice' lacy Skechers for going out 😁
Travelled Tasmania with heavy hiking boots the first time. Never again. Last trips packed 2x Skechers. Washed out the mud & dried over a heater.
And, oh, no I sure didn't go down. I sent HIM, down, the poor guy.! I PERSONALLY feel GREAT other than a bit shocked to be reminded just how easily those of us in our 80s can go down! And how little bounce we have.
I was kidding about being banned. Better entities than museums have tried to ban me. It never works. I do think perhaps the guards are warned about me. Like "watch that gal in the blue jeans and flowered mask; she is taking them down as she goes".
I actually felt very well, other than a bit teary in that while staring at lovely flowers and paintings I failed to notice the doctor. And then his daughters were so danged nice to me they made me cry a bit more. Not the boo hoo, you know, just the tears sliding down thing.
I was in fact congratulating myself on being on my third round of the entire show, having clicked dozens of pictures and enjoyed a round camera free, having used the stairs rather than the elevators, having worn my best blue jeans and black teeshirt WITH my handmade earrings. I was in quite the celebratory mood until I leveled the good doctor. Having said to myself "You are a member! Why aren't you here once a week! And why am I not. Such a marvelous open and beautiful place.
He surely is disliking nurses even MORE now than generally doctors do, and in SF they generally do dislike us because we are overall very mouthy and naughty due to very strong unions which allow us to pretty much advocate for our patients no matter what the doctors say or do.
I am going to just watch a bit better where I am going I think. When I am going.
Nacy, my brother lived his life in nothing but Birkies. I do think at some age he needed, for his balance, more support, but he never listened to me. His balance was trashed by Lewy's, but he didn't live long enough at 85 to ever fall from it. Or anything else. Sure looked like a drunken sailor there toward the end, but always managed to correct for lean quickly enough.
I don't WALK. I pretty much HIKE. So I wear Hokas. A lovely wife toe pan, great support, and they just go and go and go. Getting close on to about two hundred for them ,but boy do they last. I swear by them. So I am barefoot at home, Hokas on the street.