My husband is 75. He has recently been diagnosed with Parkinson’s.He is an alcoholic. He has moderate to severe neuropathy due to his drinking, He won’t stop or limit his drinking shows no remorse for causing his illness. We have no social life because he isolates and doesn’t want to interact with former friends. He also have CHF. I am sad and angry.
Do you have access to all of the financial accounts? Do you have his POA? Are you a joint owner on things like your house and cars?
I’m very sorry you’re in this situation.
Just because your husband has chosen his sad and pitiful life doesn't mean that you have to go along with his choices. You have a mind of your own and I hope you'll start using it to pick yourself up by your boot straps and get out there and enjoy this one life you've been given. Life is too short to waste it.
Your husband has made his choices and bed and he can lie in it, but it most certainly doesn't mean that you have to lie in it with him.
So start going to church, going to lunch with an old friend, taking a day trip with friends, or just go for a nice long walk and enjoy the beautiful weather.
I wish you the very best in taking your life back and enjoying it!
Do everything possible to get both of your legal ducks in a row now. See an elder law attorney together (or if he won't go, you need to go by yourself no matter what). Often the first consult is free. You need to see the financial landscape of where your joint assets are and what the long-term cost of his disease may be. You need to understand Medicaid, which he very well may need to pay for future facility care. He needs to assign you as his DPoA (and you need one for yourself, too) and if he refuses a PoA then explain that he will (not maybe, but will) get a court-assigned 3rd party legal guardian and it won't be you.
If he falls you should not attempt to pick him up... call 911 and ask for a "lift assist".