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Yesterday,the same thing happened on my computer too Send.I thought it was my old computer messing up,but now I know it happened to you too.
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One improvement I would like to see on this format under the "Discussion" section is where we can "reply" directly to someone's post like what we have over on the "Question" section.

Sometimes I will read something, then go back later to answer only to find on the faster moving forums such as the whine discussion, is back a page or two. If I answer now, it would just get lost within the other new whine subject matters.

If that software could be added like we have on "Questions", that would be great :)
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Why is it that when I click on the News Feed link from the daily email, it always takes me to the Profile page? Then from there I have to click on the News Feed link to get there. Why won't the first link take me directly there if it's labeled News Feed?

Anyone has this same issue?
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I've never used the links before but I just tried it and you're right, it does take me to the profile page. I always use a bookmark to get to the forum page or my news feed.
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The Hugs on the new site are great,but I think we need more to choose from like we used to have on the old site.A Hug that would show being tired or frustrated would be good and maybe one that would express being funny,like the laughing baby there used to be on the old site would be good.We just need more Hugs!
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I agree, Lu! Such a limited choice. And maybe even the ability to upload our own images as hugs!
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Yes, we need more hugs !!
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I get confused with answering the person answering the original question. I answer it, then realize it was 2 weeks ago and no one will see my answer (?)
Am I getting dementia? (lol, I hope)
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I do not like the reply option on entries made by those that come to this site. I think recently we have been bombarded with comments from either trolls or people that just do not know much about caring for our elderly.

The worst part of this is the people that frequent this site will attack and correct statements made that are either incorrect or from an inexperienced person or even troll. People, do not attack, instead respond to the original post, no reply, without feeding the trolls or correcting their thoughts and opinions. That does nothing but raise ire.
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I do not like the "reply to" feature.

It fosters off topic side discussions between posters instead of addressing the
OP. Many disagreeing, starting a fight. I give up and leave the AC website.

It is confusing trying to find the reply when it has popped up on one's news feed.
That is a time waster, I give up and leave the AC website.

Aging Care is a special place, and full of confidential sharing from people's hearts and struggles, while still being a public forum. I am here to help others.
The more the AC website resembles Facebook, the more I want to leave. It is not my intention to walk on eggshells to avoid difference of opinions from people who dislike me, or follow me just to attack or disagree. One can find that on any other website. But trolls or dissenters do not belong in this special place, imo.
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I've noticed on other forums that some threads/notices are pinned to the top of the page, why can't AC do that? Once again I had to go on a scavenger hunt to find the list of abbreviations for a new poster, what's the point of having it if it isn't easy to find??
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cwillie, I noticed that, too. I like to use the "Care Topics" in the upper right corner to find subjects, but I couldn't find the Abbreviations which if located there would be soooo very helpful :)
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I'm hating it because I'm only hearing problems of caregivers. I'm getting no answers to why an elderly relative exhibited extreme anger and then completely forgot it
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LaurenJohn, have you tried starting a new thread? If you click on the three horizontal bars to the left of the AgingCare logo in the blue menu bar above, you'll see "Ask A Question" and it'll guide you through what to do.

I see on your profile that your stepfather, out of the blue, had an angry outburst directed at his wife and now doesn't remember that it happened; but if she has told you what happened and you can describe it to us, we'll have a better chance of making helpful suggestions.

Sorry you've been searching in vain so far - very annoying.
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Hi LaurenJohn, I checked your profile and as far as I can see this is the only post you have made, if you want advice from the community all you need to do is ask a question!

As for someone forgetting a temper tantrum - that's what dementia is. People with dementia can often feel lost and out of control and may lash out in anger, fear or other disruptive ways.

BTW, AgingCare has hundreds of articles full of information about many topics, you can find them by selecting "care topics" from the banner at the top of the page.
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This website is beginning to draw a closer parallel to facebook. It gets nasty sometimes. I no longer read and/or respond to personal messages or bother to look at what anyone might have 'posted on my wall,' whatever that is. I also avoid any forum category that is suggestive of interpersonal communication not specifically related to a question asked. No desire to connect interpersonally on any kind of intimate level. So, no I don't like the format, if that makes me a Troll, then so be it; draw up my Troll confession papers and I'll sign them
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We recently had a member who said that she had to take a break because someone was sending her nasty PMs (Personal Messages).  We have some of our posters apologizing for posting or venting their feelings. 

I have been told (via PMs that mention no dates or details) that the way I answered some questions in the past that I am the cause of a couple of people leaving the forum. So I have become "gun-shy" about answering any question and often wonder if what I am writing will be taken wrong AGAIN. 🙍

Over the past year, I have become more and more careful which questions I post on and many times my answers are referrals to some websites that are related to the original poster's topic.  I have never posted a question to the Forum as I am so afraid of the negative feedback that I might receive.

So I read the postings and when I feel that I can truly contribute to the original poster's question, then I post an answer.

I have also noticed that some health care businesses have posted as individuals on some of the questions and I do not think that is appropriate.

SIGH!  🙍
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I think that anyone who is savvy enough to use public forums should also be savvy enough to understand that we have to take the good with the bad. All of us have people we like and loathe, it's probably better to avoid the places where those we dislike hang out. If a post is offensive report it. If a PM is offensive report that too, and then delete it. There is always the option to stop following any thread, that way it will stop coming up in your news feed. And if a thread or a particular person has gone off the rails use the "contact us" option to communicate your concerns directly to the administrators.
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DeeAnna - I don't see too many posts from you because I don't follow too many treads, but of the ones I read, they are helpful and meaningful to the conversations. Please stay and contribute where you think appropriate. Just thought I let you know.
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DeeAnna, I also agree with Polarbear. Please keep contributing to the forum :)

When it comes to the written word, we are not seeing facial expressions, thus cannot judge the mood of a posting. Some will read a post seeing helpful information, someone else will read it seeing it as being unfriendly. I remember when I first came on the forum, I was oversensitive due to the stress. One post I thought was down right rude, but I didn't say anything. After a while, that writer was so right with that posting, I just couldn't see the forest for the trees.

I learned my way around a public forum decades ago when I was debating politics. Now, that is where one is thrown into the deep end of the pool, and sometimes walking on hot coals. It was quite a learning experience. Eventually I learned to just think "whatever" and move on to the next debate :)
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I am sick of the tone many threads and posters have taken on this site. What happened? It did not used to be like this. We have never known if posters are real or a figment of their own imagination. It could even be longtimers or even administrators that are stirring up the community. This evolution to nastiness seems to be recent. When did A Place For Mom purchase this site? Maybe the attacks and nastiness is a recent evolution to what this site is to be?

I am starting to evaluate whether this site holds any validity for me any longer. The nastiness I am seeing is unbelievable. People can't seem to ignore ugliness, instead they follow the knee jerk reaction, respond in defense, and make a bad situation worse. Don't need the negativity in my life.
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I was a little taken aback when I realized A Place For Mom were not just sponsors but actually owned the site, I don't know when that took place. At least their "experts" have stopped recommending the service on threads - it could be because people jump all over them when they do.
As for the nastiness on the site - it seems to have calmed down a little bit lately. I'm always especially dismayed when those who have been on the site a long time join in or even instigated it, they should know better. And complaints to the administrators are sometimes ignored.
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cwillie, I know I miss the professionals who use to answer questions on this forum. It seemed like most had stopped contributing after the website was revamped last year :(

I miss Carol Barsack... K. Gabriel Heiser Esq... and Ralph Robbins CFP

Also miss the bloggers such as David Hilfiker... John Schappi... Rick Phelps... Ann Marie Mercera.... and a lady, I think her name was Mivna who was caring for her husband Charlie. I always wonder what is going on in their lives now.
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Good point FF, we don't see any contributions from AgingCare any more, even the articles are just recycled with a new date added. I guess that fits with APFM's business model - get your money for nothin'.
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correction to my earlier post. I have turned off settings that allow for personal messages. too many nasty, judgmental people who think they have the right to say whatever they want to you. I've gotten a lot of kind pm's too though.
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Please just STOP. 🤐

This is exactly the kind of bickering gladimhere was talking about - what, are we 12 years old that we can't just agree to disagree?
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cwillie
I understand your point. But it has to be acknowledged that there is a clique on here and from the PM's I've received many besides me have been on the receiving end of harsh, judgmental lectures and a clique that gangs up on people and calls them trolls if they object. After that, I decided that wouldn't happen again so I turned on all privacy settings to prevent any further PM's, though I have to say I did hear from many kind and welcoming people. Now I'm finished saying what I needed to get off my chest so I'm done with the matter.
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I am sorry Cwillie and to everybody else. I will keep my options to myself. I know better! This forum is meant to support one another and not a playground to bicker and I apologize for my behavior.😞
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Shell- I hope you will not leave this forum. Please don't. I don't want nice people to be chased off of the site like NeedHelpWithMom. I wish I could reach out to her and ask her to come back. Maybe she still lurks in the background. Perhaps, I can post a reply in some of her threads and hope she will read it.
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Er, I think NHWM posted that she was taking a break for health reasons, but I agree we certainly don't want to lose anyone due to forum bickering. I know it's easy to get caught up in it but we all need to try to remember that people on the site come from all walks of life and are often under enormous stress - think before you post!

And Shell, thanks for the apology 🤗
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