I did a tour of the new Agingcare website and I don't think I like it.
First and most important, my head got cut off in the profile picture, only the torso is showing. That's not very nice. At all. Looks are very important, even to a polar bear. It took me a long time to pose for that picture. haha
Second, when I see an interesting question or discussion, and don't have any relevant answer or comment to add, but would like to read what others have to say, I can just click "Follow" and that tread will appear on my Follow list. The new Agingcare website doesn't have it. Why? That feature is very useful for a newbie like me.
Third, I prefer the large blue font type of the old site. Much easier to read. The new site has light smaller font size on a light blue background. Not as easy to read.
Whoever in charge of Agingcare website, can you fix the above?
Thanks
Sometimes I will read something, then go back later to answer only to find on the faster moving forums such as the whine discussion, is back a page or two. If I answer now, it would just get lost within the other new whine subject matters.
If that software could be added like we have on "Questions", that would be great :)
Anyone has this same issue?
Am I getting dementia? (lol, I hope)
The worst part of this is the people that frequent this site will attack and correct statements made that are either incorrect or from an inexperienced person or even troll. People, do not attack, instead respond to the original post, no reply, without feeding the trolls or correcting their thoughts and opinions. That does nothing but raise ire.
It fosters off topic side discussions between posters instead of addressing the
OP. Many disagreeing, starting a fight. I give up and leave the AC website.
It is confusing trying to find the reply when it has popped up on one's news feed.
That is a time waster, I give up and leave the AC website.
Aging Care is a special place, and full of confidential sharing from people's hearts and struggles, while still being a public forum. I am here to help others.
The more the AC website resembles Facebook, the more I want to leave. It is not my intention to walk on eggshells to avoid difference of opinions from people who dislike me, or follow me just to attack or disagree. One can find that on any other website. But trolls or dissenters do not belong in this special place, imo.
I see on your profile that your stepfather, out of the blue, had an angry outburst directed at his wife and now doesn't remember that it happened; but if she has told you what happened and you can describe it to us, we'll have a better chance of making helpful suggestions.
Sorry you've been searching in vain so far - very annoying.
As for someone forgetting a temper tantrum - that's what dementia is. People with dementia can often feel lost and out of control and may lash out in anger, fear or other disruptive ways.
BTW, AgingCare has hundreds of articles full of information about many topics, you can find them by selecting "care topics" from the banner at the top of the page.
I have been told (via PMs that mention no dates or details) that the way I answered some questions in the past that I am the cause of a couple of people leaving the forum. So I have become "gun-shy" about answering any question and often wonder if what I am writing will be taken wrong AGAIN. 🙍
Over the past year, I have become more and more careful which questions I post on and many times my answers are referrals to some websites that are related to the original poster's topic. I have never posted a question to the Forum as I am so afraid of the negative feedback that I might receive.
So I read the postings and when I feel that I can truly contribute to the original poster's question, then I post an answer.
I have also noticed that some health care businesses have posted as individuals on some of the questions and I do not think that is appropriate.
SIGH! 🙍
When it comes to the written word, we are not seeing facial expressions, thus cannot judge the mood of a posting. Some will read a post seeing helpful information, someone else will read it seeing it as being unfriendly. I remember when I first came on the forum, I was oversensitive due to the stress. One post I thought was down right rude, but I didn't say anything. After a while, that writer was so right with that posting, I just couldn't see the forest for the trees.
I learned my way around a public forum decades ago when I was debating politics. Now, that is where one is thrown into the deep end of the pool, and sometimes walking on hot coals. It was quite a learning experience. Eventually I learned to just think "whatever" and move on to the next debate :)
I am starting to evaluate whether this site holds any validity for me any longer. The nastiness I am seeing is unbelievable. People can't seem to ignore ugliness, instead they follow the knee jerk reaction, respond in defense, and make a bad situation worse. Don't need the negativity in my life.
As for the nastiness on the site - it seems to have calmed down a little bit lately. I'm always especially dismayed when those who have been on the site a long time join in or even instigated it, they should know better. And complaints to the administrators are sometimes ignored.
I miss Carol Barsack... K. Gabriel Heiser Esq... and Ralph Robbins CFP
Also miss the bloggers such as David Hilfiker... John Schappi... Rick Phelps... Ann Marie Mercera.... and a lady, I think her name was Mivna who was caring for her husband Charlie. I always wonder what is going on in their lives now.
This is exactly the kind of bickering gladimhere was talking about - what, are we 12 years old that we can't just agree to disagree?
I understand your point. But it has to be acknowledged that there is a clique on here and from the PM's I've received many besides me have been on the receiving end of harsh, judgmental lectures and a clique that gangs up on people and calls them trolls if they object. After that, I decided that wouldn't happen again so I turned on all privacy settings to prevent any further PM's, though I have to say I did hear from many kind and welcoming people. Now I'm finished saying what I needed to get off my chest so I'm done with the matter.
And Shell, thanks for the apology 🤗