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I'm in my 60s. A younger coworker's mom just died, suddenly and unexpectedly. She probably was younger than me. My mom is still alive, in poor health, age 97 1/2. My thoughts are going to my mom: Why does she get all these years and my coworker's mom didn't. Do you ever feel this way when someone dies?

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I believe we're all given a certain number of days here on earth. When those days are up, we go.

Why was the huge amount of cancer in my body taken away completely with 2 rounds of immunotherapy while others struggle thru a whole year or more of the torturous IVs? Which accomplish nothing and then they die at 35 with small children they leave behind? I believe that it wasn't my time to die at 65.

I think it's common to question Why people die when they do, especially babies and young children who suffer immensely beforehand. For me, it's reassuring to believe that God has a plan for all of us, and that's Why.
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I had a cousin who was the same age as me when they found him dead in his home. He had just retired at 62, was extremely athletic and fit, and in many clubs and groups, financially secure, etc. His daughter couldn't get hold of him so requested a wellness check. They found him sitting up on his couch with the tv on, a beer on the end table. No obvious signs of anything, no foul play, they even did a toxicology report. Nothing. My neighbor, a retired cardiovascular surgeon said he'd put his money on a first (and last) a-fib event.

My one Aunt lived a very quiet, uneventful life up until 105, with all her mind and health, able to still live in her house with some help from family up until the end. Then there's my friend's 33-yr old son who has been battling a glioblastoma and recently given 6 months to live.

Yes, life often seems unfair and random. However, I process it through the filter of my faith, and this gives me peace in my heart every day.
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Recently a fun, vibrant friend of mine, only 55, suddenly dropped dead during a run with her running group. So horrible and shocking. Couldn’t be revived, was just gone. An autopsy later revealed she had silent Afib.

It was so strange, especially seeing her mother’s face at the memorial service. There is no rhyme or reason to it all, unfortunately.
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Yes, but I factor in how the person conducted his/her life. I am always sadder about those who ate healthfully, didn't drink or do drugs, stayed out of dangerous situations, respected their bodies and lived a clean life. For the others, such as a person who died mid-30s after smoking since he was 14 and drinking heavily by age 20, I wonder why they didn't heed all the warnings about taking care of themselves, and I'm less sad.
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