How to change negative thoughts into positive.
How to gradually improve our mental outlook.
How to use positive affirmations to change how we look at the glass half empty, or is it half full?
How to get through the day, just for today.
Caregivers who have had success doing this, please help your caregiving buddies by telling what you tried.
So many are suffering in silence, I am sure.
Okay, here we go!
I was in a group therapy many years back. I now know that my role was the scapegoat, (not a 12 Step at all).
Feel free to enjoy the group here. Everyone is welcome.
I have contacted a few posters who will moderate if anyone gets to stinkin, because I would not make a good group leader.
BTW, Shell will not be joining us tonight, she has been locked out by a glitch
in the website, same as some of us are experiencing.
Shell, just so you know, there is a good reason I bring up your screen name.
There are little A/C website creatures following me around, and this is how I notify them of an issue, lol. Sometimes, they fix a problem right away, late at night.
Groups. I've been the leader, the scapegoat (cheers Send!) and the one who desperately tried not to roll my eyes when someone monopolized the group with their life story every evening. (I left that group after three sessions)
Once, I had to jump out of bed and say: "And that is why therapists only have 45-50 minutes per session!"
When I had difficulty sleeping, I was advised to get out of bed, repeat a bedtime ritual (aka sleep hygiene), not to sweat it or lay there thinking, but read a book.
These 3:00 a.m. awakenings recently allow me to say hello to people all over the world as they are getting up. hello, going back to sleep soon. : )
(Hmm... wonder if my family would 'get it'?)
Thanks for asking after me CWillie. I am already dressed!
Unfortunately, it is the same clothes as last night, and I have no funny Tee Shirts to wear. Very funny Living South! Wouldn't it be nice if AC would gift Tee Shirts with something written such as: AgingCare.com 24/7. ?
So, to correct the need for more than 6 hours of sleep, in the past, I have drastically reduced my coffee consumption!
Drank half-calf. The rapid heartbeats which once were recommend to see a cardiologist and wear a halter monitor went away!
If I stop drinking coffee, I will get headaches, right?
What are some phrases, quotes, that help change thinking to positive?
I have used: "Nothing bad is happening now".
Sometimes, I can argue with that, of course something bad is happening!
Then I laugh at myself.
And my second is, "If God is for me who shall prosper against me?"
Send, you are silly at times.😛
Thanks, I will take that as a compliment, coming from you. It is not easy being silly, but I have practiced here on AC for years. The goal is to lighten up, to not take life too serious.
I can also be serious, especially when it comes to the bible. I also like the verses you quoted. To quote accurately, I looked this one up for you:
Romans 8:28 King James Version (KJV)
28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
But I knew what you meant. Hope you don't mind.
Now, I must run to update my silly blonde look, adding highlights to my hair today!
Lol.
So thank you😁
That's kind of like turning a negative into a positive I guess.
From groups Iv'e heard "What you hear here ,stays here" and another one I've heard is 'Take what you want and leave the rest". and also HALT, which means don't get too hungry,angry,lonely,or tired.
Sorry, I've got nothing.
Was the cake chocolate?
Well then, Yes, that is a positive!
Caregivers often turn negatives into positives using distraction and diversion techniques. It requires a creative and sharp mind to do that. Surely we can all distract ourselves....by baking a chocolate cake.
Gershun and CWillie,
This thread is for you, to help yourselves, or help others. The "support" comes mostly from just being here with others, just like the other topics on Aging Care.
Everyone, there was no intention to require this thread to be a 12-Step program, was just looking for ideas. If the 12-Steps have helped anyone in the past, we can use what has worked.
Maybe we have tried too hard, there is no obligation to post everyday. But so nice to see you here anytime! And thanks for supporting this thread!
Knowing that I could not do it alone......You all are great to show up!
Many thanks!
blessings
WHAT? This isn't a 12 step program?😱 I'm on the wrong thread and/or website!!!
Just kidding!😀
Watch Teepa Snow videos on YouTube, all of them.
Find ways to reduce stress - exercise, meditate, eat cake!, whatever works for you
Get respite - get away for at least an hour once a week or more if humanly possible, plan to get a longer vacation annually.
Always have a plan B
HEALTHY LIVING
10 Ways Sarcasm Makes You A Better Person
JK, you're the worst.
ByLindsay Holmes
Excerpted....
While everyone lobs a snarky remark here and there, a sarcastic person expresses humor in verbal irony by making statements that defy their literal meaning. Anecdotally, many people who identify as sarcastic claim that they can't help their salty commentary. For them, it's as natural -- and important -- as breathing.
Those who are sarcastic are the rulers of the universe, displaying more wit and intelligence than any other personality type (that was sarcasm, obviously). But, in all seriousness, snarky commentary is a quick way to get misunderstood.
But sarcasm isn't necessarily a bad trait to possess. Below are just a few things you should know about sarcastic individuals and their shared smart-aleck personality type:
1. Sarcasm may be a sign of good brain health.
Research shows that a little sarcasm can be a good thing when it comes to cognitive function. In fact, an inability to detect sarcasm may even be a sign of brain problems or disease, like dementia. Through a series of MRIs, scientists found that sarcasm lives in the parahippocampal gyrus, the part of the brain associated with memory. How's that for a reason to sharpen your wit?
2. It helps you pick friends.
Sarcastic people tend to dish out their snark more with their loved ones than anyone else. This makes it important that they surround themselves with people who appreciate their sense of humor (which research shows is crucial to social connection). Sarcastic people appreciate people who not only have the ability to tolerate their smart-ass comments, but can give them back.
This support group is not meant to be exclusionary, or cause anyone offense.
When online, I ran across a blog article at Good Therapy . org. after entering PTSD and Prolonged Grief. Excerpted here:
"Prolonged grief (PGD), also known as complicated grief, can occur when symptoms of grief are exacerbated and persist over lengthy periods of time. Experiences such as reliving the death event; being reminded of the death through mental, visual, or auditory stimuli; and even experiencing intrusive thoughts are all symptoms of posttraumatic stress (PTSD)......"
Tiger,
You are welcome here.