
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
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"If you don't make the time
to work on creating the life you want,
you're eventually going to be forced
to spend a lot of time dealing with a life you don't want."
There are two major reasons why you should avoid toxic/dysfunctional people: health and happiness.
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”If you don’t make time for your wellness, you will be forced to make time for your illness. Read that again.”
Needing to protect myself financially.
It's kinda personal and embarrassing for me to even speak up.
"Life's as kind as
the people you fill it with."
Lylii1 - you sure have a lot to deal with., Your autistic kids may not be able to help. Glad your husband can help, but sorry his health is not good. I don't know if it is dysfunctional or not but it sure is hard. Can you get any outside help for your mom? Does she have any money to hire them? It would help if you could fill out your prifile and give more details about your situation - is your mom living with you? what health conditions does she have, how much support does she need? do your kids live at home? and so on. Wishing you well. I know this is really tough.
“The scars you can’t see are worse than those you can. Heal them, and you’ll heal yourself.”
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“This is how you love yourself. Instead of begging for the pain to go away, you choose to hear what your pain is begging of you.”
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today’s words of wisdom:
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“I'm not sure what's tighter: my jeans from high school or my grip on the past.”
“No one is coming to apologize for the years you lost.
You either build from here. Or spend the rest of your life bleeding over old wounds.”
I am shocked how many symptoms can be explained.
There is no cure.
I realize there is so much more to learn....
i just saw this funny quote, and it kind of fits with “words of wisdom”:
”I have decided I no longer want to improve myself.
I am a beautiful disaster.
And I accept myself as such.
So bless this mess.”
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“No one is coming to apologize for the years you lost.
You either build from here. Or spend the rest of your life bleeding over old wounds.”
bundle -thx for the wisdom and laughs. You are so right. We have to build our lives despite what we have lost. No one will or can do it for you.
send - new treatments for FM??? -
Yesterdayanurse- welcome. Ding-a-lings could be dysfunctional, as could volatility and drama seeking. Certainly sounds draining,.Can you detach a bit for your own sake?
May 20 was my mother's birthday. Brought back some memories - not good ones. I am so glad that is over. It's more than 7 years since she passed so I can get rid of some documents and will. Had news from my nephew that my sister has had a hip replacement and is doing well. That's great. I still don't want any contact. My life is betetr without it. Have a good one, everyone. 😊
I was scrolling, asked Ai and FB offers up reels.
My memory has retained nothing, and my new fibro specialist did not want to see what I downloaded.
Suffering now from information dump. Not yet conversant on the topic.
I usually follow your advice and healthy lifestyle.
Had a mini crash the afternoon after a too strenuous walk the other day. Took a few extra pills, went to bed and slept, slept extra the next morning and am OK now - I think. I'll try another walk in a few days.
I used to walk and walk and walk...I miss that.
sheepherder -I'm sorry for your troubles. I understand. My sister was of no help and caused trouble when I was doing what I could for mother. But then, that was nothing new. She did it all our lives. Mother has gone, and I have cut contavt.