My mother has been narcissistic, mean and nasty life long. I cared for her for out of duty for four hellish years. Now in a NH her journey down looney toon alley is outta sight - calling me screaming and getting me into a stroke/heart attack situation. I will visit, ensure she has all she needs and attend to her financis but I'm kicking her to the curb.
Hugs to you. May you find the right words to express yourself and may your Mom actually listen. And if she doesn't , which she probably won't, :( come back on here and let it out.
So sorry for your tears.
((hugs))
Tomorrow I will confront her, if she's not in looney tunes mode, and walk away.