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Lea, OMG - your dating story was so funny LOL!  And, I can totally relate to your prior online dating experiences - me too!  I really feel like I could add to the DatingDotCom book of "worst dates ever" for sure!

OK, here's one - so, this was my 1st date with this online dating guy - we met at the restaurant and just sat down - there's two glasses of water on the table...so, he proceeds to dip an entire paper napkin all the way into the water glass - drenches the napkin and then starts washing his face at the table!  I was just staring in disbelief!  While wiping the wet napkin all over his face, parts of the napkin remained on his face, and so by the time he was done, he had all these little pieces of napkin stuck onto his forehead and in his mustache and beard...and one piece that was stuck above his lip, so every time he talked, the napkin would move up and down!  I tried to tell him there were little napkins stuck all over his face, but he just kept talking over me, so I just left it like that!  Aside from that, he was "Mr Wrong" anyway!

Lea, and just reading your message today, I, too, am filled with "happy tears" from such an amazing story about this ideal Marketplace chair that surfaced...I hope it brings you much comfort!!
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OOh, Lea, the CHAIR story. How I love the chair story.
I have had a zero gravity chair for ages now, and I got it when my back was OUT, and I mean out so bad that it was using a walker. I would not be without that chair and if it every crumps I would be "My kingdom for the chair". It has saved my back over and over and over, and is well worth the money I spent on it. Basically I am not at all a spender, and love junk shopping....can make myself a gorgeous terrarium by a trip to the junk store, up the hill for rocks from an old quarry site, and clippings off the plants of friends. So this chair I DID pop for, and was never so happy in all my life with something.
And your play it forward.
This thread is always full of so much love and beauty. It is a huge pleasure to read.
But the chair.........................Lordy.......................if anything could make me a believer..........................
What a happy story.
And you, Lea. I honestly don't know what to say. Here you are with MORE pain on that day, and what do you bring US? You bring us the most beautiful story.
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Alva...its my job to find the mini miracles and point out the beauty in life. Otherwise, its all doom and gloom with a lot of self pity thrown in. Not going there.

I'm in a semi zero gravity position right now typing on my tablet. What a relief to take the pressure off of my back! Love it. My son confessed to Chuck this morning while shooting bird photos that he was taking to his sister about chipping in together to buy me one!

The rash is gone completely from my arms and legs but remains on my chest, not itchy etc. Good news. I'm TAKING this 2nd infusion on Thursday come HELL OR HIGH WATER SO that's that. 😉 Ain't no stupid side effects gonna stop me from my mission. I have to do whatever I can to extend my days here on earth.

Hope, how very classy of your date to wash his face from the water glass and handy "paper washcloth" the restaurant provided him with for that very purpose 🙄. I had a date once, yes once, with a fireman who was the definition of paranoid. There was a 30 min wait at Olive Garden and he'd ONLY wait w me in his truck in the parking lot. Where he proceeded to pull out a gun from the glove box and wave it around at anyone passing by the truck. I think I needed a Xanax by the end of that date from hell 😣

PB.......divine intervention 100%. Brought to mind finding the dime in the ER that day. Somehow, we're given what we need when we need it most.

I'm glad you all liked the chair story. I'm still gobsmacked myself. I listed the wing chair on marketplace for $40 so for spite, nobody is viewing it! 😑 I so want to give it away as a surprise. I even threw in a hand made wool throw!
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Lea - That's so funny about the fireman date - OMG!! He was probably trying to show off in front of you as he was waving around his gun at anyone by the truck!!

oh, and to top it off...I forgot to mention that this glass of water that my online date was dipping his hand completely in with his napkin - that he later drank from it like nothing happened - hahahah!

Hope you're enjoying your day relaxing in your comfortable chair!!
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Hope! I was aghast at the napkin on the face story! But, the update with the drinking that dirty water? Made me gaggggg! 🤢 You poor thing!

I love this thread. LL1- ministering still!

I’m praying for your infusion, Thursday!
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Scripture du jour:

"The ways of right-living people glow with light; the longer they live, the brighter they shine."

Proverbs 4:18 (The Message)

Rise and shine, people! Thanks for shining on this forum, LL!
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One day to go for the next infusion and my thoughts so with you Lea. My daughter goes home today and sure am going to miss her after a week visit from her and hubby.
Thinking of you. Though we are dealing again with 21st century phobia and computer system glitches I am finding a way to connect with ethernet to come here and check on you, my first stop of the day.
I am hoping your appetite stays good with these treatments??? So you can keep up good strength for the inevitable side effect.
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Alva, I have no appetite to speak of. I'll eat dinner if chuck puts a plate on the table, and a little string cheese or yoghurt during the day. Doc said to eat small hi protein meals throughout the day to allow the immunotherapy to take less of a toll on my body.

The good news yesterday was my labs: my liver function has increased dramatically from the labs taken 3 weeks ago before my first infusion! Thank God. I don't understand why I'm having such bad pain in my right side where the liver is all of a sudden, though? I'll ask the doc tomorrow who I get to meet with for 30 minutes before treatment.

Thanks Bandy. Yes, today is the one year anniversary of my mother's passing. My stepdaughter had 5 small teddy bears made out of her clothes for me, which was nice.

Geaton, you are very kind.

Hope, drinking the water after he "bathed in it" is gross. Imagine what his home looks like if he's washing his face at the dinner table of a restaurant! Probably has no running water or a hoard situation where the bathroom is unusable and filled with trash! 😣🙄

Thanks Colleen. I'm feeling a little anxiety about the IV tomorrow at 9, I'm not gonna lie. But I also want to hurry up and get the 2 pouches into my body so it's done!

My cousin and his wife showed up on my doorstep yesterday (just her, my cousin sat in his car which he backed into my driveway for a faster escape, I guess. 🙄 Chuck answered the door and Kathy refused to step inside! I wonder if they think cancer is contagious or something. It was very awkward. So I got up off my beloved recliner and went to see her standing outside on my stoop. She looked like she saw a ghost. I invited her in, she was again insistent on not coming in, but wanted to drop off a card and 2 gift certificates to the local Mexican restaurant we like. Which was nice and thoughtful. One from her and one from my other cousin. When I called them later to say thank you, they both said I love you which was a first. I think people get spooked at "cancer" and want to steer clear of it, lest it become a reality for THEM. I was happy for the gift cards but happier for the I love you's even more.

My new chair is truly a Godsend. I reclined in it all day yesterday and didn't need to go lie down until 730pm which is another small miracle.

People tend to look at miracles as huge things, which is rarely the case. If we look for the SMALL miracles that occur in everyday life, we can all find many. But most are too focused on HUGE events, allowing the SMALL miracles to go unnoticed and unrecognized. Open your eyes, ears and heart to all that transpires around you every day and I guarantee YOU will see lots of small miracles yourselves.
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Ongoing prayers for continued success in treatment and healing. May God bless you richly with His abundance. God's ways are not our ways. I totally agree about small miracles and the need to look for them. I am so glad your cousins reached out to you. Enjoy the Mexican as much as you can.
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It was Einstein I think who said "Either everything is a miracle or nothing is". Interesting. No idea what his feelings were on faith.
How glad I am of that chair for you. I so love mine.
I fully understand not looking forward AND looking forward to this infusion. I think the last helped you, but not without side effects. I, too wonder about this new pain.
I wish your appetite was better.
My thoughts with the cousin was perhaps thinking of covid prevention, not wanting to "give you something" by their visit? I know my kids are visiting now, and one thinks of them out and about all over the city and then in and out, and what are they carrying with them. That's a guess tho.
Glad the infusion in on the early side and you don't have to wait all day for it, Lea.
Love out to you woman.
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Alva, staunch black & white thinking, a la Einstein, tends to forget ALL the gray area which is where reality EXISTS.

It's not a miracle that I'm using a keyboard to type this up, but it IS a small miracle I'm not having too much pain TO use the keyboard.

I just want this #2 IV to be IN me and over with now! It feels like months since my last one, and days at the same time. Odd. I'm def not looking forward to the side effects, but they haven't brought me too far down yet, so press on, is my motto. I'll be back home by around 10 am and another one will be in the books. Phew.

Golden, thanks so much for your kind words.
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Lea, I wish you a very successful and easy day tomorrow...just know that we'll all be praying especially hard while you're getting your treatment tomorrow morning and I hope you'll be feeling all of our positive energy around you in spirit!!

- sending tons of love :)
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Hey, girl, I’m praying right now.

Lord, we lift our friend before you. May the infusion do its job. May it have as few negative effects as possible. May it also work the way it was intended. Thank you for our friend, who shines her light here. May her life continue here, so that she may continue to serve your people. There are so many of us that appreciate the gift You have given us in her. Thank you, LORD. Really. Thank you.
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Lea, I want to wish you good luck with tomorrow's treatment. I hope it goes as smoothly as it can. And (((((hugs))))) on the 1-year passing of your mom. I know many of us on AC are thinking of you and keeping you in our prayers. You got this. :) One day at a time.
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cxmoody, I am standing in agreement(as I'm sure others are as well)with everything you said in your lovely prayer for Lealonnie. And all Gods people said AMEN and AMEN.
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It doesn't seem to me that it's been a year since LL's mom has been gone. Really? Have I gotten that addled?
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Lea, I also pray tomorrow will be a blessed day for you. I've added you to my nightly prayers. God speed.
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Adding myself to cxmoody's prayer and belief.

Where 2 or 3 are gathered in HIS name, there HE will be!

and think, the more the merrier!

You got this Lea!

Amen and Amen!
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In the tough times when something tough is on the menu for my a.m. I just reassure myself that the evening WILL come and it WILL be over. Same with the side effects. They WILL lessen. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.
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Remember faith is believing is what we do not see. And…that is hard…to believe despite what we face. But you can do this. The Lord will be with you every moment. And we will be praying AND BELIEVING for miracles,
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Prayed with cxmoody and you all. You will get through this. When it is done, you can come home and flop… I tell myself that whenever I have to do hard medical things.

I totally understand your feeling about wanting to and not. I have surgery coming up next week and feel exactly the same way.

And yes to the small things. I have had a few of those in the last few days and they have sustained me through a difficult time.

I wish I could send you a song… Mercies in Disguise, I think it is called. It is beautiful and almost makes me weep. (I also cherish it because when my kids were small they thought the words were “mousies” in disguise. Makes me smile through the tears:)

I often joke that illness and divorce are two things that can turn other people into bizzaros. I don’t know exactly why, but it sure makes life interesting, lol. Sorry you had such a weird visit, but glad they at least tried.

I always took that quote from Einstein to indicate awe at what was in front of him and a disappointment that people choose to look at this amazing life as underwhelming:)

Alva, so glad you had time with your daughter. I am sure she appreciates you… as do so many of us here on AC🥰
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Laura Story is the singer. Not sure if it will work, but I am going to try to paste a link. If you can’t click on it, maybe copy and paste in browser.

Good luck tomorrow!!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ICnct8THNag
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Prayers for you, Lealonnie!
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Continued prayers for you Lealonnie. Praying you handle the infusion well and do not experience any side effects. Praying for a good outcome for you. 🙏
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I join my Amen with the others here. May there be blessings in this day for you.
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Praying this morning that all goes well; for no pain and the therapy is effective; strength for you and Chuck; and for that transcendent peace in your hearts whatever may come. (((hugs)))

Scripture du jour is more light-hearted today...and it made me think of you ;-)

“Don’t waste your breath on fools, for they will despise the wisest advice.”

- Proverbs 23:9
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Thinking about you this a.m. As soon as I can get that sun to come out, and cold as it is (San Francisco style cold, not that real stuff the rest of the nation is facing down) I am heading out this a.m. While you get that infusion, Lea, I will address my succulent garden beneath the beautifully gnarled branches of the Meyer lemon tree. Full of tangled roots and with some weeds, so will pull out the bad stuff and plant the pups (odd that succulent babies are called pups?), with some of that good strong composted soil my worms made. Every gnarled root a bad growth replaced by new life. That's the goal. The old knees on the foam pad while I work. Every weed some bad stuff pulled out so the good has room to grown. And will think all the while some healing thoughts, renewal thoughts. I hope the side effects for you aren't too tough this time, and hope when they are tough they mean that the therapy is in the pulling and punching and planting good cells to grow.
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Thinking of you and praying for you this morning as you go in for your immunotherapy, that it will do what it's supposed to do and that you will have little to no side effects.
And praying that you will feel Gods arms wrapped around you tightly as He walks through this with you.
I will leave you with one of my favorite Bible verses, Zephaniah 3:17..."The Lord your God is with you, He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing."
The thought of our Mighty God singing over us makes me teary eyed every time.
May God bless you and keep you.
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I'm sitting in the recliner waiting for the pharmacy to send up the 2 infusion bags, IV in and ready to go. It's negative 3 degrees out today and snowy. On the ride over to Kaiser, we saw a pretty big rainbow which followed us all the 15 miles we drove. I can honestly say I've never seen a snow rainbow before. I googled it:

What is a rainbow in the snow called?
The fact is that there are snowbows, the ice-crystal analog to rainbows. A snowbow is a fairly rare phenomenon that forms when sunlight is reflected and refracted by ice crystals in the air (just as a normal rainbow is produced by the reflection and refraction of sunlight by raindrops).

So......I took that "snowbow" as a good omen that I'd hear some good news today and I did. My liver function numbers are back to NORMAL! The doc said the immunotherapy is WORKING beautifully, killing off the active cancer ( and there was a LOT OF IT) inside my body! The fevers and rashes (now gone) are proof that my immune system is killing off the cancer, just as hoped for. Immunotherapy doesn't always work, but it IS in my case thank God. He said my diaphragm was hurting so badly bc my liver was so swollen. I guess it's shrunken back down since my diaphragm pain has subsided so much.

The oncologist also said the infusions do NOT accumulate and get worse, side effects wise. The side effects WILL come, its just a question of when, what and severity level. But not to expect things to worsen.

We feel very relieved overall and grateful to God that these treatments exist. And to my wonderful doc who's a fellow New Yorker and carried my red Coach purse and jacket into the infusion room FOR ME. I told him how red suited him, and he reminded me how he was properly coached by his New York female family members on how to carry pocketbooks and coats for women 😂🤣😁😃

Thank you to everyone for bolstering my spirits when I read all your comments this morning. The Yervoy and Obdiva bags have arrived, let round 2 begin!
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Will be praying throughout the day for you!

The snow rainbow sounds absolutely amazing!
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