My mother is my fathers caretaker. She is wore out and needs help taking care of her husband diagnosed with Alzheimer's, going on over 2 years. She hasn't looked at any source of help to benefit my father. Resent changes are, vehicle taken away from my father. Close family recognition going, does not know familiar places . My mother changes medicine dose that doctor prescribed because she doesn't like how he is affected by it and yells, arguing with him constantly.
Good luck!
Also keep in mind that your Mom may not want strangers in her house all day and will just be bossing the aids around or drive them out. Before you go down the path of hiring help, please do what I suggested above first. Also, you won't be able to force her to do anything if she doesn't have a PoA that is active.
Have you tried to have a conversation with her, telling her how she seems unlike herself, on edge, stressed? That this is very common in caregivers and that has a name, "burnout"? If so, what does she say to it? Does she have a fear of losing control or being judged?
Is there someone in the family who can suggest she take advantage of her free Medicare annual physical to make sure she's getting the best care for herself so that she can be there for her husband? If she can be coaxed to go, whoever accompanies her should slip a pre-written note to the staff telling them the behavior symptoms she is showing and request a cognitive exam for her. At this appointment her family helper should ask for the HIPAA Medical Representative form and have her put down you or someone else local and trustworthy so that her doctor can legally discuss her private medical information without her needing to give further permission or to be present. Your Mom may need meds for depression and anxiety herself.
Most importantly, if she doesn't have an assigned PoA she really needs to get this in place or the family will have a more difficult time helping the both of them with managing their affairs and making decisions for them.
If she does have a PoA assigned (and hopefully it's not her husband) then this agent needs to read the document to see how the authority is triggered.
More info for context would be helpful.