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I have not posted in a while. ( I actually got into affordable housing for six months, and it was such an unhealthy, traumatizing environment, that I ended up right back here to just to breath clean air and feel safe. I was also finally diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder. I am currently looking for a normal apartment and will use my disability account savings and hope it doesn't run out before she dies and leaves me her house.) One of the worst things now about being back here, is my mother's worsening breath over the last so many months. She says she brushes her teeth and gets regular cleanings, but her breath smells like mothballs (or plaque) and possibly something else I can't figure out. It's mostly when she talks or just breaths. Her breath fills up about three feet or so of space. If she is on her computer in her office, I cannot go in there because the whole room smells. I am literally unable to be close to her because it makes me want to throw up. It's becoming really disturbing. As someone with autism, this is a sensory nightmare for me. I've been hunting for the little scented plastic nose ring I bought that will help mask the odor. I do not think she always brushes her teeth as she often falls asleep on the couch with her mouth side open, and then gets up in the morning and gets busy enough that she forgets to eat or drink water, so I am wondering if she is brushing as much as she says.....I bought her dry mouth lozenges but she doesn't use them enough. I am going to buy some mints she likes and leave them on the counter as a way to encourage her to use them more often. Either way, I am beginning to think that the bad breath is more systemic than just poor oral hygiene. She is 86 and eats a lot of sugar at night on an empty stomach, doesn't drink enough water at high altitude here, and isn't looking so well - kind of pale and face sunken in more than usual. I have told her a couple of times that maybe she needs to get a workup, but she doesn't bother. I really cannot say much to her because she gets defensive and that is triggering for my mental health. She has a personality disorder with OCD and unchecked anxiety. I never know when a normal conversation is going to go sideways. I walk on eggshells a lot. I have been reading that bad breath can be caused by a number of things, but if I can smell it and it lingers when she is just talking, then it may be systemic - like unprocessed waste being filtered back and out through her lungs. Has anyone else dealt with this? My grandmother lived to be 102 and had bad breath, but it was more plaque, and didn't project into the air three feet in front of her. ** I am back to trying to stay away from her for other reasons in spite of the enmeshed relationship she always tries to have with me. She does rely on me a lot more these days and I am happy to help, but maybe the bad breath is a reminder to stay away as much as possible because of the smell. At least soon I will not be living here full time and just working at my home business out of here because she has the space for all of my books I sell. I have to admit that I am totally over dealing with her for the most part. I love my mother, but she has treated me like crap, and if the yelling is going to come with bad breath, that at least makes me walk away much faster rather than stand and defend myself, which is something I am still working on.
First I would caution you about relying on your mom to leave you the house. Or expecting it to be left to you. Just do not expect it to happen, if it does...great.
Now the bad breath. It can be any number of things. An infection. that might be oral but there are other conditions that can cause the breath to be bad so it may not be a dental problem. Not brushing her teeth Many medications can cause a dry mouth that can lead to bad breath. It can be a prescription medication or OTC medication. There is a topical product some people use DMSO that can cause bad breath (onion or garlic odor)
So.... If you have talked to your mom about this but she either does not care or there is a medical condition that she can't help you have few options. You moved in with mom...You save as much as you can as fast as you can and move out. You avoid contact with mom as much as you can. You avoid any situation that may result in an argument. If she tries to start one, don't argue...walk away.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Now the bad breath.
It can be any number of things.
An infection. that might be oral but there are other conditions that can cause the breath to be bad so it may not be a dental problem.
Not brushing her teeth
Many medications can cause a dry mouth that can lead to bad breath. It can be a prescription medication or OTC medication.
There is a topical product some people use DMSO that can cause bad breath (onion or garlic odor)
So....
If you have talked to your mom about this but she either does not care or there is a medical condition that she can't help you have few options.
You moved in with mom...You save as much as you can as fast as you can and move out.
You avoid contact with mom as much as you can.
You avoid any situation that may result in an argument. If she tries to start one, don't argue...walk away.