My father is in his 60s dealing with Dementia and Parkinson's. He got diagnosed in 2021 but has been rapidly decline due to the specific strain. He has an at-home aide that comes regularly to help while my mother is at work. He has been affecting me and my mom mentally and physically. He has ruined my mental health and caused me to spiral and get admitted to a psychiatric ward. He has affected my mom's back and spine due to the fact that he is quite large and cannot stand by himself. He has also made 4 other aides quit already and I can’t stand him anymore. No elderly home or nursing home will help us due to the fact he acts normal while they are present. We have already gone to 3 in the past 6 months. He has caused me and mom so pain. What can I do?
I don’t understand this: “No elderly home or nursing home will help us due to the fact he acts normal while they are present”
If he physically can’t stand on his own and needs an aide and can’t be alone, that sounds like exactly the situation that senior care facilities are designed to help with.
I think you mean he “acts normal” or not aggressive (?) while being evaluated by professionals? Can he stand on his own then?
Has your mother discussed this with his doctors?