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The best advice I can give you (from my firefighter husband). DO NOT attempt to pick up a person who has fallen.

Call 911 (no matter time of day) and tell them someone has fallen and you need public assist to pick them up. He always stated it is not safe to pick up a fallen person and it is likely to injure both parties.

He stated they went to the same home multiple times in the same day. They are happy to assist and it is their job,

Be safe.
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130 lbs of dead weight from the floor is quite hard. If your mom injures her back doing this, grandpa is going to end up in a NH. Even the belts (gait belts) would be hard to lift him with off the ground. They work well if you're walking with someone who is about to fall and you can use the belt to lower them slowly to ground. You can check out 'blow up cushions to lift someone off the floor' for a variety of styles and prices. Those would work if g'pa can turn to the side so mom can get it underneath him. They also make bath lift chairs that would probably work if he would be able to slide over on to it.

She needs to remind him about the fall, how she cannot afford to hurt herself trying to get him up and then tell him potty chair at night...period....no trips to the bathroom. If he insists on taking risks of falling, she'll be calling EMT next time to get him off the floor. You can tell him, if they have to come too many times, they'll get others involved and he'll end up having to live elsewhere. If he continues to take chances, he's going to have the fall that breaks something and very likely your mom will not be able to handle his care on her own anymore. So have the conversation with him - work with us and stay home longer or forever...or be ornery and reckless, take a fall, and be miserable stuck in a bed in a facility.

I would also suggest, ask the doctor to order in-home physical (legs/lower body) and occupational (upper body) therapy. It would probably help him to get a therapy routine started to help with leg strength. Medicare will cover it. I would ask for PT to start first and then switch over to OT to keep some kind of exercise going for longer period of time. If you do both at same time - they both end at same time....maybe a month or two. Then you're off for a period of time. Tell the dr about his fall and weak legs and ask for home health exercise.
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Do not lift the man yourself..call 911 ..& in a case of fall risk patients, a lift machine is necessary for transferring…
Impossible to lift a fallen man
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I would discourage the use of any kind of lift without the recommendation and training from a PT. While that addresses the falls, it is not addressing the reason he is getting up in the first place. My 93 yo father had a stroke a few months ago and both at the rehab and once back home, he was getting out of bed several times at night as that had been his routine for at least the last 10 years due to an enlarged prostate. He did fall a few times but PT taught him how to get himself up from the floor, he is strong from PT & OT, plus my brothers also helped. What finally brought this to an end was putting on a high absorbency pull-up style diaper with an additional high absorbency pad that not only keeps my dad dry, but he is sleeping 10-12 hours through the night without waking up….has help his recovery so much to get a full night’s sleep.
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When my husband tried to get out of bed when we were in hospice they told me to call a non emergency number for the fire dept. They came out in just a few minutes and a team of paramedics got him back in bed. If your dad is falling a lot you better discuss with his doctor what should be done. Not safe for him or your mom to be alone in this condition. If she tries to get him up she could hurt herself and him in the process and then they’d really be in a predicament.
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Call 911 , they will get him up and ask if you want him taken to the hospital .. At least they do that in Florida.
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I agree, call 911, and after too many times they will see he needs to be in a care facility. This will ruin your mother.
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I manage a small, concierge-level home healthcare agency in Boca Raton, FL and I come across this all the time. It's no surprise that he wants to be independent. Men are stubborn! It's also no surprise that your mom wants to help him. Women are heroes! (Women are clearly the mentally stronger, smarter, and more rational sex!) <<<< I'm a guy!

With my parents, there were one of two scenarios: Either my dad would fall down and then my stepmom would fall down trying to get him up and they would have to "push the button" so 911 could get them both up, or dad would push the button and Barbara would put out milk and cookies for the paramedics when they came. (They were on a first-name basis with "the boys"!) We nicknamed mom and dad "Wobble and Hobble".

Here are some things you can do to keep Grandpa happy, mom safe, and the paramedics away (but they do like their milk and cookies!):
1) Forbid your mom from ever trying to lift him - never, ever, ever!
2) Get BOTH of them "Help I've fallen and I can't get up buttons". I always recommend that they use the wristwatch type not the pendant because they can sleep and shower with them. The two most important times to have the button are at night and in the shower so it makes smart sense!
3) If Grandpa isn't using one, get him a walker. For $20 extra, get the tray that fits on top of it and a little basket for the front of it. Once he figures out that he can use it to move things more easily, he will use it more often.
4) Take a look at what's on his feet and on the floor. My dad hated to wear shoes and socks are slippery. We got him the "grippy socks" and his life got better. Are there tipping hazards on the floor? Sometimes rugs help, and sometimes they hurt. Take a look.
5) Grab bars? Professionally installed, not the suction ones can be put in hallways, and anywhere else they will make a difference.
6) Get you, mom and gramps, on Youtube and search for videos on how to get up after a fall. There are a lot of easy techniques (I like the two-chair technique) and tips to help dad get up on his own. Obviously, this is only an option if he's strong enough, but if he's walking he may be able to use one or two of those techniques.
7) Exercise and physical therapy. The stronger he is, the less likely he'll fall.
8) NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER get mad or angry when he falls down. He didn't do it on purpose! Empathize with him - laugh it off with him and don't make him wrong, don't beg him to do "X, Y, or Z". Maybe it's a bit of reverse psychology, but having him feel bad, embarrassed, or wrong are just going to lead to more resistance.
9) Whoever said we have to treat our old folks like children is a liar and a fool. Treat them with more love, respect, kindness, and gratitude than they deserve because they deserve even more!
10) Write number 9 down on paper and put it on the fridge or the bathroom mirror so you don't forget!

I hope that helps! ~BRAD

(P.S. That thing in the link... no, no, no, no, no!)
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