My mother can never ever say anything positive. It starts first thing in the morning and continues until she goes to bed.
Every morning she begins the day by "attempting" to tell my husband or me that she didn't sleep all night (if you heard how she snores, you would understand that we KNOW when she's sleeping). She continues on by saying " I don't know WHY I feel sick to my stomach today". And then it progresses on. Usually by saying that she had diarhhea (she has a potty by her bed for night time). What she considers diarhhea is not MY idea of diarhhea, but I digress since I'm probably grossing you out anyway. (sorry !! )
After she has stated all of her illnesses, the complaints turn to my husband and I and how we are pains in the ... !! "You two people" (her name for us) .. blah blah blah blah. You get the picture.
Avoidance of mother has now become the norm. The sound of her rolling walker banging through the house sends me into escape mode.
Anyone else ?
It's a tremendous burden to the caregiver. I used to think I was alone, but I come back to this site and find my mother over and over again in the comments of other people.
I figure I'm on the Concorde to heaven and have atoned for all of my many sins in life. That's the bright side I keep reminding my self of (with a chuckle). :-)
PLAN FORWARD -- Spend as much time with him when you can --- try to make him understand this is part of life. I'm rooting for you....
She is actually following the rules and is 95% nicer, most of the time.