Me with the crazy mom again. Some elements of dementia, but mainly a through the roof anxiety, OCD that drives herself and me as her primary go to person nuts
Every morning wakes up anxious about whatever, calls me to frantically ask if I have taken care of her medicare signup for next year, her property taxes, on and on and on, even though I have assure her manytimes its all under control
She asks over and over, not because she forgets, because when I ask what I said last time she remembers, but needs the constant reassurance that an OCD person needs, which she has had all her life but getting crazy as she is in her nineties. I have tried the not answering the phone, butthen get twenty message of her literally weeping begging me to call her back
I feel either she, or I, will wind up in nut house
I am wondering if there are assisted living places that specialize in this or if even adult protection services can help, her anxiety will drive herself ot the grave. Me too. I cannot do this anymore
My one brother has ordered her not to call me everyday and if she has a problem call him, but she does not do that. I am like her anxiety pill.
My mom has one that comes into her MC. It’s a great help.
My brother was so much better when I did all bills, handled all the money, appointments and etc and he was in care at the ALF. They said that this was common. He actually improved and had fewer hallucinations from his early Lewy's dementia. Again, they said many improve because anxiety was so improved. I think that you should discuss this with a doctor. And if your Mom is competent in her own decisions, then no diagnosis of anxiety or OCD will take her rights from her, so no, you cannot admit her against her will if she's competent, but she can enter herself if she understands this may help her a lot.
APS doesn't manage anxiety. Doctors do. APS manages seniors incompetent to act for themselves who are a danger to themselves or to others, or seniors as risk from others.
I only brought up APS as I wonder if her through the roof anxiety (words of medical professionals) could cause her harm
I have to bring her to a new doctor, her old one relocated next week for general complaints from my mom I am going to ask for a referral to a psychiatrist, hopefully geriatric one but I understand those are hard to find even if this, a relatively large metro area
What meds has your mom's psychiatrist prescribed to treat her agitation and anxiety?
Have you discussed getting her admitted to a psychiatric facility with her psychiatrist?
She's in a Senior Living place, yes?
Have you considered asking them to call 911 when she gets out of control when she can't reach you?
And because she does have dementia, she really shouldn't be living alone anymore. It's time for you and your brothers to look into the appropriate facility for mom to be placed in, before it's you that ends up being hospitalized or dead from all the stress.