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My mom moved to Puerto Rico 2021 to take care of her mom. She was close to one of her 3 sisters and a cousin. About a month and a half ago my grandmother had a stroke and my aunt and uncle claimed my mom couldn’t take care of my grandmother or herself. They claimed my mother has changed. Speaking to my mom over the phone was hard because she would misplace her phone. Between my older sister and I we kept in touch weekly. So the estranged aunt my mother isn’t close with told us that her estranged brother and other sister were going take care of my mom. We were trying for months to get my mom here but my mom didn't know where her stuff is (ID and she’s getting Social S). A week later my family goes ghost my sisters and I blew up every number we could find until my aunt told us they put my mom in a home. Without our consent. The whole time they never took her to the doctors to get her checked. Now after weeks of back and fourth we found out today my uncle made himself “in charge” of my mom and claims only way we can get her here to the states was if we flew down to get her. We already told them we couldn’t because circumstances here and we don’t trust him at all he’s never been in our lives and my mom hated him. we feel he should just bring her to air port and request assistance. We’ll take care of her here. He doesn’t want it that way he wants it his way. This place he placed is weird one number to a building not connected to facility where my mom is. So no updates. Is this legal? How can my sister and I get my mom here back to the states? My mom wanted my older sister to be her POF.

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Who had the stroke, your grandmother who u meantion or was it your Mom who had the stroke?
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NeedHelpWithMom Feb 2024
JoAnn,

Read the OP’s response to my post. She says that her mom is not sick and is doing well so I am inclined to believe that her grandmother had the stroke.
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You need to go to PR. Ur Uncle is right in telling you if you want to bring her back to the States you have to come get her. An airline will not be responsible for someone suffering from Dementia flying alone. It seems weird that Mom shows signs of Demenia where she is having this much trouble but showed no signs 2 yrs ago.
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Isthisrealyreal Feb 2024
JoAnn strokes can cause this decline in a matter of hours.

Two years could be a lifetime.
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This is nothing you can take care of long distance.
You cannot even know what is going on. Nor can we.
It's time to pay a visit and see what's up.
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I am sorry to hear that you are having issues with your uncle.

When was the last time that you saw or spoke with your mom?

Does your uncle have power of attorney for your mom? Is your mom in poor health.

Are you planning to visit your mom? Can you get more information about your mom from the nursing home?

You may need to consult with an attorney to get this resolved.
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Sammy8787 Feb 2024
My sister spoke to my mom today. She asked about me and my sister. How we were doing. My uncle does not of power of attorney. He just took charge of her because my aunt didn’t want both responsibilities of my grandmother and my mom. My mom is not in poor health. She walks talks eats etc. the problem with the place they put her in is there’s one number. And the number is not connected to the facility. We are gonna get an attorney because we feel there’s to much being done or being said.
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