Correct me if I'm wrong, but wouldn't the children naturally/normally take the initiative and care of their parents with nursing home details, etc?
One child (A) lives within 5 hours and the other (B) 1 hour. "A" does her dealings over the phone leaving it to the grandchildren to pull it off. "B" doesn't know what to do and leaves the grandchildren with decisions.
This burden has been weighing very heavily on the grandchildren as they don't know what to do and their parents aren't taking the load.
What are your thoughts?
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I am still confused. Can we take another stab at clarification?
GRANDPARENT: Age? Medical status? Financial status? Living at home or in facility, etc?
MIDDLE GENERATION (children of Grandparent, Parent of Grandchildren) How many? How far away geographically from Grandparent? Ages?
GRANDCHILDREN How many? How old? Locations relative to the Grandparent? Prior relationship with Grandparent? (Close, saw often, visited one each summer, what?)
This may help us sort it out.
Their grandparents chose them to look out for them in their time of need and they agreed..
The children (25-40) have POA from what I understand. From what I'm aware of, they did meet over what to do, but nothing really has changed decision-wise. I'm just a family observer (separate family branch).
How are you in the picture? A grandchild?
My kids would tell me to screw if I left my Mom's care up to them! It's not there responsibility..
But my question would be what is your role and interest? Are you one of the grandchildren or an observer?