Hi all, so my dad is back at his home from the hospital, and isn’t doing the greatest. He really needs to be in a skilled care facility but has refused all of them and ended up signing himself out of the hospital AMA. Since being home, we have called APS to get him set up with any resources we can. In the meantime, he told us he “hired” a home health nurse that was a friend of his neighbor (she works for a home health company) and hired her “under the table”. My sister and I have been very skeptical of all this the last few days since happening. Last night we found out this “nurse” stayed the night with him, to help give him the care he needs, but all of it didn’t sit right my sister and I. He told us it was the nurse that APS set him up with, but ending up finding out he was lying. I got this woman’s name and *supposed* phone number also. Tonight I logged into his baking information and it seems to me that someone (I’m assuming her) has been taking A LOT of money of out of his account. He should have a few thousand and only has $400 left. I am so worried and not sure what next steps we need to take. I am calling APS first thing in the morning and explaining everything to them. But I just didn’t know if any of you had some advice on this. There is so much more to it to explain, but I’ll leave it at that. Thank you all in advance!
Also have her investigated
They fired the aide, and he went to the VA hospital where he lived happily ever after.
For starters, nurses get big money. Hiring one to privately work for one client 24/7 is a fortune. The few thousand your father had in his bank account won't cover but maybe a week or two of nursing care.
Secondly, no nurse whose license isn't lost or under suspension is working "under the table". So the caregiver is a friend of his dealer. No doubt she's a rachet ho and an addict herself.
Really all you and your sibling can do is call APS and report that a vulnerable drug-addicted senior nit in his right mind is being abused by his hired cargiver.
That's about all you can do. Unless you wanted to go through the process petitioning the court for conservatorship/guardianship over him. In my opinion based on what you've said, it would be nothing but grief and hardship for you and your sibling if one or both of you got conservatorship/guardianship for your drug addict father. Then you would be legally responsible for him. Call APS and let the chips fall where they may.
We can't judge from here the competency or incompetency of your Dad, but if the latter is the case, and he was left in charge of his funds, he may have given them all away. I am assuming you haven't contacted this person about her billing and etc. nor about payment.
Without adequate information I suspect APS nor anyone else will be able to figure out what happened here, but I wish you best of luck.
I read your previous post.
1. Dad is an addict.
2. He signs himself out AMA anytime he is in a facility.
3. You and your sister both know, (wisely) that he can't be cared for at home.
Call APS and report financial abuse of a vulnerable elder.