I have just had to place my husband into long term care skilled nursing due to his dementia and other physical problems. I know he is safer there as he is under good care, but I still miss having him at home and being his caregiver. After 12 years of taking care of him, I know that this is a good decision, but also feel that I have given up on him. I am still trying to figure out how much time to spend with him. Still trying to deal with this.
When my grandmother was well she was the one supported me in putting my mother in a NH. Now they are together and she still sometimes ask to go home. But my mother reminds her that she lives there too.