My husband and i have separated for 8 years and we have a Separation Agreement dividing our assets. I hear he is now incompetent and going to a nursing home. will i be able to commence divorce proceedings given his condition? can his guardian object although we have agreed to live separate lives and go our separate ways independent of each other 8 years ago?
But the caregiver has as much right to have a life as the person with dementia does. To walk away from an abusive parent or spouse is often the right thing to do. It is NOT the same as throwing someone away because they are ill.
I have a religious/moral justification for walking away from an abuser. When the abuser hits or says vicious hurtful things, the abuser is committing a sin. Walking away and refusing to accept the abuse prevents the abuser from committing a sin. So you are actually doing the abuser good by walking away. Often the abuser is meanest to family members, and will treat paid carers better, and will be happier.
And remember, judge not, that ye be not judged.