My step dad (77) has only peripheral vision in one eye, macular degeneration in the other, and recently lost consciousness behind the wheel, caused a serious accident, and received 3 tickets. By Illinois law he was supposed to have his license suspended for 6 months, but somehow that was not submitted to the state. He is not safe, but thinks he should drive ('must not be that bad') since he has his license and it is not suspended.
Suggestions appreciated. I don't know where to start. His doctor, SOS, health department, or other.
Suggestions appreciated.
I think what needs to be emphasized is what this means for your parent. Not having a license can be very anxiety producing as they don't know how they are going to maintain their sense of independence without it. Help your dad to create a plan so that he feels like he can still get around and it doesn't require calling you to come get him when he wants to run up the street to the store for something. When he see's a plan that can actual work he may be willing to give up his license more easily. My dad has mac deg and was willing to give up his license more easily because my mom was still driving, so she was his fall back plan. My mom now should be giving it up but doesn't want to because it means absolute loss of independence. We are exploring things like selling the car to create a cab slush fund, door delivery of groceries and medicines and take out, community services that pick up seniors and take them to outings and appointments.
Good luck, I know it's not easy.
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Contact the doctor and ask him/her to put a stop on him. Go to the Illinois State Patrol Office and notify them. Mom can call a tow-truck driver to move his truck to a storage facility (after you let the police not to put the vehicle on the stolen list if Dad reports it).
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My husband just tested, it's a virtual driving test and it is understood that it was just step one in the inevitable license loss................it is a legal tool and no one's fault. Anger will erupt when the license is revoked, but that's what medication is for.
Go first to your DMV with POA and his drivers license in hand. See if they will cancel his license and give you a replacement ID card. Take that home with a blank set of keys for his key chain. Then you can lay down the law, say it's over, here's your new license for your wallet, DVM says no driving. Don't mention the blank keys, replace the real keys with the blanks, let him keep them in his pocket.
This is not easy, my 5' self stood toe to toe with my 6' husband in the driveway and said no damn way! This went on for over 2 months, every time we were going somewhere, I was in the drivers seat! He never drove again, and like someone else said he began to enjoy it after a bit. AND........ he never killed anyone! That's what you MUST keep in mind. Someone else's life, someone else's child!
Blessings for you and your family!
Google DMV. There is a form you can print out and then fill out the form and mail it back. It may take a few weeks but your dad will get a notice from DMV regarding an appointment with a date, address, and time. Take your dad to the appointment and they will give him a driving test. If he fails, they revoke his license that day.
The form is called Request for Driver Review.
Then you will have to step in if he won't give up his driving rights. My mom still drove. She wouldn't stop even though we told her she could go to jail.
I so wish you luck. It was VERY hard to do this and I had to do it with both my parents.
How did he pay those three tickets? Contact that court and find out why they never put the suspension on his license. Call your DMV, explain the accident, and find out what has to happen to get the suspension. Call his doctors. Doctors who treat people for epilepsy report seizure activity to pull the license until the patient has gone x number of months without a seizure. Considering his eyesight and the recent wreck, would seem very likely the doctor who treats him for his sight could help to get a form to file and medical records to back it up.
While I realize it might be more difficult for some seniors to navigate some of these options -especially with the added requirement of using technology to reserve rides, there are so many options out there - and to your point - might even save money over the gas, insurance and upkeep.
Plenty of young adults don't even bother to have cars anymore - with the availability of rideshares like Uber/Lift.
And it doesn't impact their independence at all.
Suggestions: As a concerned person or caregiver
1. Go inquire on why his lisence was not suspended
2. Talk to his PCP and share your concern
If no one is willing to help, send a certified letter to the courts and to his doctor with a formal request for help. This will show a genuine concern for your stepfather and the public. Hopefully this will get the
ball rolling.
Your stepfather sounds like he will continue to put innocent people's lives in jeopardy by driving sneakily even if he has no valid license or insurance, so get a steering wheel lock to which you keep the key ASAP.
https://www.autozone.com/alarm-and-security/security-lock
This should help until you can arrange for his license to be voided by his doctor or the DMV.
If he still has to go to the bathroom
Then try 6 pm
I stop drinking at 5 pm will sip a little water