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I spent the first 14 years of my life as a Roman Catholic, I am aware of that.
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Well as I said not all people who believe in God are like that.
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It's stepson. I didn't meet him till he was 26, well past his formative years. But, If he were a Muslim,he would probably be strapping on a suicide vest. *grin* But he's just a born again ex-surfer dude who can't see past the little Jesus dude on his nose.
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Flad your son sounds like a radical christian. Trust me, we are not all like that.

I'm sorry if we were hard on you. Don't move to an atheist site. We are not all christian's on here. We are good, kind people and it sounds like you need the support especially if you are crying yourself to sleep each night. I'm sorry.
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That is not going to happen.Even my wife was hinting a few months ago too just go along with it. She bounced it off him and he said I don't believe it. And he is right, as much as I wish I could I am not going to deny who I am. After our 20 minute screaming match and he finally calmed down, he just began proselytizing and telling me I have to "Accept Jesus as my Lord and Savior". He has never accepted me for who I am. I never made religion and issue but he did. What do you with someone like that. It's not worth wasting my breath trying to get through to him. The cold truth at this point is I am not going to be able to say goodbye to my wife and I cry myself to sleep each night, with that reality.
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She really needs her faith now more than ever. I really do think that is it in a nutshell. My mom and I were of different faiths in many ways, though we would both identify as Christian. The message to me about wanting her to finally do some things that I thought would be a far better was to live was simply that she was doing what she thought was right, and it should not be taken away from her. I would think you could be part of her life again if you could accept her faith and support her, even though you don't intellectually agree. You can let her son (not your son too, either adoptive or biological?) know about the possibly increased financial support they might have but it really is up to her.
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I may have come across as being callous in my post. That is not how I intended to sound. The religious aspect has always been a problem between her son and I. Her 42 year old son is overprotective and much to involved with his moms life. He always be worried that I would take his mom to hell with me. We had a screaming match the other night, a he blamed for her pancreatic cancer. He has always insisted staying with her when she was going to be staying in the hospital , so my wife preferred that I stay home and avoid the tension. Being a non-believer I can't compete with promise her the everlasting salvation. that he would give her.
Now fI ind myself alienated and in a complete vacuum and unfortunately decisions that are not made now, could have a future impact on me. It that sounds cold believe me I dearly wish she were healthy and with me. I moved to California 16 years ago to be with her. and have we have never been apart other than hospital stays. Maybe I should move on to a atheist forum for my concerns.
But I do thank those who responded for making me realize how insensitive my post did sound.
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Pancreatic cancer is one of the worse cancers you can get. Suffering is an understatement and you are worried about money and her wanting to be with her son. Give your head a shake!
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Because she left by her own choice, your status is "estranged". You can't force her to see you. See a lawyer on how to handle things.
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This sounds so much about money and absolutely nothing about Love Care and concern of your Wife, her diagnosis, treatment and your Support! Is that really what you should be thinking about at this time? How much money you can get from her before her passing? If I were you, I would be reading up on what exactly stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer is all about, just how this is affecting her and how You can make the rest of Her life easier and how You can be more Helpful, Kind and Loving towards Her! Get your priorities straight Man! Now, If I am Way off the mark, than you didn't do a very good job explaining your question posed to the Hard Working and Loving Caregivers on this site, and I hope you come back an re-word your question!
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This woman is possibly dying and you want to start a SS claim without her knowledge? I have a feeling she is with her son for reasons other than "spiritual".
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Your wife may have cancer, but it does not take away her mind. She has the right to see you if she wants. Only she has the right to start a disability claim. And only she has the right to give you access to her medical records. I hope that she finds the spiritual help she needs with her son. If she were to qualify for disability, of course it should go toward helping to meet her needs at the time. I don't know how old you are, but I hope you are able to find support for yourself, so that you don't need her little SS check.
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