Fil right now is in and out of consciousness. He can only indicate yes and no. He is being fed by ivs. He can’t use the entire right side of his body,
Mil reacted by making the sleep aide a true live in, She wants her husband home. This lady isnt even a cna. She has handled a Hoyer lift zero times. She is in poor health herself.
I don’t think she’s reflected on how it really takes a village to handle cases like fil, but she absolutely won’t consider a home and it sounds like she’s even resistant to rehab.
What to do?
The things mil needs support with aren’t her adls. It’s more like executive assistant functions that her other dil is tasked with. The immediate task burden is now the financial paperwork that comes with spousal death.
Sil is paid hourly. Aide is paid based on a contract of 117 hours a week, as it was back in 2020 when she was brought in to care not only for fil after his stroke but mil who was fighting cancer at the time. She has long been in remission.
I hope you get the unfortunate complexities sorted.
Mil’s first instinct in all 15 hospitalizations was to give aide the next night off, presumably to have her own space. We want to foster that versus a paid friend and her family.