My mother's in rehab for physical therapy and not happy. She's mad and not cooperating. She tell me I'm not going to take her home, she's asked me if I'm trying to kill her and several other mean and hurtful things. The staff tells me this is normal and not to worry but it hard. She's has a urinary tract infection from the hospital which they are treating with antibiotics which is messing with her mind. I'm new to this and it hurts to see her in this condition. How can I get her to calm down and trust that i will take her home one day and to take the time to get better?
It sounds like your mom is exactly where she needs to be. It may be time to realize that she can never go home. My mother is 95 and in a great nursing home. My MIL is 92 and is an equally great assisted living.
No more worrying if they have fallen, been taken advantage of, getting bathed, dressed, fed, etc. They are both safe and that is the main thing.
If you are your mother's caretaker, think about what will happen to her, if she survives you. That is exactly what happened in our family. We feel that mother's neediness resulted in my sister's premature death, at age 69.
My MIL sold everything and went to AL, after a stroke. It made everything as easy as possible on her "kids" ages 61, 65, 68 and 70. :)