Wearing hearing aids doesn't help much, the urge is to cut yourself out of one person at a time is all I can deal with or I lose track of the conversation and if asked to repeat any thing, people always repeat at the same levels. I can read lips to some extent but I have to be able to see who's talking.
I can certainly understand your frustration. My husband is very hard of hearing and that has curtailed our social activities.
Do you mean that the "din" of the group makes it hard for you to hear? Parties with music are hard, of course.
Why don't your hearing aids work? I was having a terrible time making myself understood to my husband until I became more pro-active in having him change the batteries and the tips. Now we do that once a week and life is much easier.
Are you able to have conversations one to one?
My suggestion at this point would be to encourage activities that do not rely so heavily on conversation, as such, like going for walks with people, playing cards, fishing with the guys, etc.
What is it that you like to do?