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This question right here is one of the best things about this forum!!! The poster will know her options and the fact that she is not obligated to take on the role of guardian. Lord knows the medical profession and hospital personnel will always try to guilt/arm-twist/obligate, whatever, a daughter (especially) to take on the care of the parent (mostly the mom). The supportive and constructive comments here are really great. What a sticky mess this aging-parent stuff becomes. It's like quick sand pulling you under.
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cherokeegrrl54 Sep 2019
You sure said it right!!
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Please do what is best for you. Feel no guilt and don't let anyone make you feel as if you should forgive anyone for anything. Live your best life, no regrets. Life is much to short. God bless!
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Cut ties with her & protect you family/children as that is your more important duty - you should not even feel a bit guilty because she maybe your biological mother but she is not your 'mom' - she made that choice years ago - have a happy move
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NoGPeace, how are things going for you? Have you come to any conclusions for moving forward with above question?
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Many great responses to your question here. I just want to add how fortunate you turned out to be a fine, caring person after not having a useful mother and being made to suffer. What amazes me is how long these horrible people can live and drive everyone to dispair while not taking care of themselves.
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Davina Sep 2019
Yes, they live forever.
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I am involved in a similar situation. My mom is 102. The last two years have been hell. I have no life. I am with my mother every day and every day it is the same arguments. She fell down and broke her hip. She spent the summer in rehab and was discharged Labor Day weekend. One of the requirements for her to go home was 24/7 care. She kicked them out on day four. She has fallen twice since then. I have begged her to allow help back in and she refuses. I have filed with APS as have VNA and her PCP. I asked for a guardian to be appointed. Nothing. VNA is after me to bring in help anyway. Social worker saw my mom this morning and said she was receptive to help. I said you didn’t speak to her in the afternoon. I spoke to her and she said no help. I have had enough. She will fall again.
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cherokeegrrl54 Sep 2019
So sorry that so many people have to go thru this. There is no reasoning with alz/dementia patients or ones who are so dang stubborn they refuse any and all help....even when they know they need it. So incredibly frustrating isnt it? We only want our family members to be safe and taken care of....
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