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My mother (61) was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease in 2019 while 2 of her children were in college and the other had just graduated college.
All 3 of them are under 30, and have become caregivers to her in various capacities, starting with the oldest who moved in with her 3 years ago when his job contract ended and has since not held a job, spending every day cooking her meals, cleaning up after her, managing her medications, driving her to and from work (when she was still working), etc.
When the youngest moved back to our state (Illinois) to be closer to family, she also moved in with my mom and has take on caregiving responsibilities while not being employed (calling/scheduling doctors appointments, laundry, helping my mother get dressed, etc.).
As the middle child, I’m still working full time, but recently moved closer due to a change in jobs. My mother’s declining mental state (paranoia, hallucinations) and her increasing demands have left all of us on call 24/7 and trying our best to care for her, but we’ve got limited life experience and know-how to help her.
We can’t keep doing this, but we also are her only support. My parents are divorced, and her parents are in their 80s.
I think she should have started making a plan when she was diagnosed, but to my knowledge she never did, and now we’ve all fallen into being her caregivers with no plan.
Who can we go to in order to discuss other care options, so my siblings can start rebuilding their lives? I’ve tried to find local resources, but nothing I’ve found shows me where I can actually go to speak with someone and figure out a plan. None of us can afford much in that regard, given my siblings are unemployed and my mom is retired.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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You added information here about your mother's declining mental state. I assume she has a neurologist? Contact him or her immediately about her paranoia and hallucinations for medication to address these. If you can't do that right away, then the next time she has an episode, call 911 and have her taken to the ER. Give them her doctors' contact information and ask them to admit her as an inpatient and work with her doctors to get this under control.
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