Help for aging Mom. Any advice?
My mother is 74, she has congestive heart failure and stage 4 kidney failure. In January of this year her pipes burst in her home and it is unlivable. She came to live with me and my 2 young children 4 and 5. It was temporary, or so I thought. Now 10 months later, life is difficult. She is not very mobile, uses a walker, only washes once a week, and only leaves the house for doctors appointments. I take her to all appointments pick up medicine 2 to 3 times a week. I do all of the cooking cleaning etc and take care of everything. I ask her about once a month if she has thought about getting a place to live and she says no, and is very angry at me. I try and do all I can, I have offered to help manage her medical bills, some she hasnt paid in 7 years, she gets mad and says she will do it, but doesnt. I am at a loss. I recently told her i needed money for gas and some bills, my electric bill has raised 40, since she moved in and i drive all the time gettings meds and drs appointments, using my own money. She was angered at that, but gave in. My fiance moved in recently, and it is very difficult. She sleeps on the couch, and doesnt follow doctors orders on moving, exercise diet. It is difficult with my children, they cannot be kids, she is on the couch sometimes sleeping until 2pm. She isnt bathing, I offer to help and she refuses. I dont want to make her mad, but I am suffering. I know she is depressed, but she wont see any more doctors than she has to. Any advice?
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