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94 yr old mother in fair health but losing arm and leg strength. 2x a week PT therapy hasn't been very helpful. There have been falls during the night to go to the bathroom.

If mom is alone, anything you can do to help is only going to alert you after something bad happens. That leaves her lying on the floor or sprawled across her recliner or head down in the bathtub, possibly in acute pain, until someone shows up to help her, at which time she might be dead. (Shock happens quickly in old people, and it can kill.)

The head-down-in-the-bathtub example happened to my friend. She found her husband like that after coming in from their back yard after only ten minutes away from him.

Think it over. You already know what you should do, and I wish you luck in finding the perfect place for her.
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Reply to Fawnby
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The nights are the honest gap in most care plans, and you are asking the right question. Day help covers the visible hours, but falls and wandering concentrate between bedtime and morning, exactly when nobody is there.
Families handle it a few ways, each with a real tradeoff. An overnight caregiver or night-sitting service covers the hours fully but is the most expensive line in any care budget. Splitting nights between family members works for a while, then burns people out. Some families check in by phone at set times, which catches problems late rather than early.
Before choosing, it helps to write down what specifically worries you about her nights: getting up to the bathroom, wandering, a fall staying unnoticed until morning. The answer is different for each, and naming the actual risk usually makes the decision much clearer than choosing between 'do nothing' and '24/7 care'.
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Reply to SilvieTeam
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She needs to be in a care home. She should have 24/7 care at this point.
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Reply to JustAnon
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Truly, your Mom should be in a care facility. Until then, a port a potty beside the bed might help. All the best.
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Reply to DianaGearhart
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Fall detection pendants that can call for help work pretty well, if the person is completely reliable about always wearing it. Unfortunately that may be just delaying the inevitable move to a better suited care community.
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Reply to Slartibartfast
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Mother needs in home care 24/7 or to be living in Assisted Living where there is help available 24/7.
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