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He's on Medicare and disability. He's been bedridden and his sister who is POA over his account hasnt been paying me like she should be. We just got into an argument about it today because she insisted that she's been giving me money, which I have everything written down and the measely 200 a week that she stopped paying me 2 months ago isn't enough at all. I'm doing everything for this man without any days off, he's wearing diapers, getting IV antibiotics every 8 hours, keeps me up at night yelling my name for the craziest stuff and I literally have no life outside of the normal things I have to do for myself. I don't have a car so I'm expected to do the shopping which I pay Ubers and it's outrageous. It's a 24-7 job and a hectic one and I do everything..they literally only bring over his boost shakes, yogurts and money for groceries that I have to find rides just to get at times. She has only paid me 1000.00 on Oct 10th for the entire month but like I said she stopped paying me the 200 a week 2 months ago so that money was owed. She only gave me 400 today which is Nov 3rd and said that she can't pay me because he only gets 1600.00 a month and she's been paying herself back for everything she has spent plus his bills but I know for a fact that she's getting reimbursed for all that and when I mentioned the electric getting paid by some grant she said they took it back and she ended up being responsible for it. I know that's a lie too..so I'm basically being used and lied too. What can I do?

Medicaid in homebis the only way you may get paid. The POA will have to apply if Uncle is not competent.
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Stop providing the care. Report him to APS as a vulnerable adult and give them his sister's contact info.

I he's over 65 he can be assessed to LTC in a facility and if he applies for Medicaid and qualifies, it will pay for all of his medical and custodial care. Hopefully his PoA isn't doing stupid things with his money or he won't qualify.
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Leave. Tell his sister that she two weeks to make new arrangements because you are leaving. Don't fall for any promises she makes. Call APS today also and tell them that your uncle will be alone and that they need to work with his sister to find adequate care for him. There's no reason you need to do this.

Do you have a friend or family member you can stay with? If not, you can go to your local women's shelter which will have social workers to help you get lined up with new employment and benefits. Where were you living and working before July? Go back to that if possible.

Your uncle probably needs to be in a long-term facility, which APS will assess him for and help set up.

This situation is not going to get any better for you, nor for your uncle, as long as you stay and let the sister take advantage of you.

Good luck, and keep us posted on how it all goes.
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Youre being paid 1.19 an hour assuming you’re living there. I would tell your aunt you quit. Auntie can move in to preserve her inheritance if he owns the property.
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