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It would be a one time event, but here is an organization that grants wishes for the elderly. (Similar to make a wish program for children). Consider other ways to make it a valuable experience for her if she gets to go outside. Is there one place SHE would enjoy going that she can not go otherwise.

Check out:
https://www.secondwind.org/dreams.html

Look around on their website, they have programs for families and facilities especially for dementia patients.

That said, as others have already mentioned you may want to seriously look at other options for her living arrangement as it would be a real safety hazard in an evacuation emergency. I believe most fire departments have the special wheel chairs that can go up and down stairs, but I would hate to wait on their services in a fire emergency.
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No elevator and can’t do stairs. Then she’s not going out, is she.
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KaleyBug Jun 2022
I am sure the OP will find a way.
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Thank you all for your ideas and thoughts. Contrary to what one person suggested I am not trying to take my Mother out for fun or on the cheap! I am trying to bring a little joy to her day and improve her mental health ..and she is the one asking to go out. I will follow up on some of your ideas. I have been her caregiver for over 6 years. I do, as many suggested, bring flowers each week to brighten things up inside..plants too. We do crafts projects each week as well. She has a fire escape outside her living room window. At this point to move her to a nursing home or memory care would not be the thing to do. Again thanks to all for your ideas. As someone suggested I will continue to try to bring the outdoors indoors.
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KaleyBug Jun 2022
I hope you find a solution. In our area my dad fell one day I called the fire department to help me get him up. Non emergency. They told me no charge that most of their calls are helping the elderly. May I suggest you call your local fire department and see if they have any strong fireman willing to come and help you get your mom outside and later back in. Tell them you are willing to make a donation to the firehouse. All our guys wanted was cookies. I think you may be surprised there will be a few that would love to help.
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Do they have a first floor apt available? I have almost same problem with my mother as she’s not mobile at all ..we have house w Acorn stairlift…but since she don’t assist at all now & her left leg buckles inward, it’s a risk to transfer her from wheelchair to stairlift chair & vice verse. Can your mother go down on her tush one step at a time? Another idea…rent an apartment for Summer or a weekend hotel by beach 🏖 ? & live in caregiver can live there too? I’m also frustrated I can’t get my 95 year old mother outside! Hugs 🤗
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I think you're a wonderful daughter. Find a way to take her out and see the neighborhood. If I were 103, with a daughter like you, I'd be so happy.

My plan, at 103, would not be to try to live 2 weeks more, or 2 years more, or whatever. It would be, to see the neighborhood, to see the things I love. If I fall ill, while at home or outside, it's OK. I've had a long life (103). I survived many things. I would love for my daughter to take me out.
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Having read many posts/suggestions, and reading there's a fire escape outside her window, would there be a way to enlist burly helpers to take her to sit out on her 'veranda' (lol) instead of going out of the building? That might be novel enough, get her outside, as long as she would not be at risk of trying to go out there herself.
If she still knows her neighbors, they could 'flash mob' her from the street or other parts of the fire escape...like a serenade or little street party. (Cartoon idea: a piano hoist out her window...no, of course I'm kidding!) Her safety is topmost, but the Medicaid idea might work if she can have an office instead of home visit by her doc.
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You just answered your own question.
"She has a transport wheelchair she could be put in and carried downstairs".
Do that. She's in NYC. Visit the local firehouse in her area and ask around if any off-duty firefighters or paramedics would be willing to come on a day to bring your mother downstairs at a certain time then bring her back up.
Make them a good offer to make it worth their time. They'll probably do it for nothing because fire/police/paramedic departments always do community work to help.
Who knows? This could become a regular thing if any of them are interested in earning a few bucks on the side.
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