Two years ago, my 85yr old mom's youngest daughter passed away from colon cancer. My sister had 1 daughter who is now 31yrs old. She moved in with my mom as soon as her mom died. My 2 brothers & I thought it would be fine for short term. We thought it would be good because my mom would have someone with her but we never asked her to be a caregiver. My niece ended up quitting her job after her mom died too. Since my niece moved in with my mom, my niece somehow convinced my mom that she no longer needs her 3 living adult kids in her life. So slowly my mom became distant with her 3 kids....Now after 2 years, my mom completely disowned her living kids...she doesn't talk to anyone. We can't even get any info from my niece about my mom and her health. My niece tells us its none of our business how my mom is doing...My niece told us that she is autistic...she has no family other than us and she has no friends. We are afraid when our mom dies we will never know... We all miss and love our mom and we used to be very close to her before our niece moved in. My mom isn't the same person since my niece moved there and our niece won't let anyone in my mom's house. Is there anything we can do...? We are afraid my niece is controlling our mom. Also, my niece has been abused by her own mom, most of her life and by my dad when he was alive. We feel my niece is using my mom too.. because she doesn't work... What can we do, if anything...please help us..We need some advice. We love our mom & truly care about her... Nothing that my mom is doing is normal behavior...Our niece blocked us from my mom's phone and from facebook too. Very strange behavior from our niece... We want to be able to see our mom and talk to her before she's gone...thank you
Are you saying there has been no change, that you still haven’t seen your mom since you wrote in 2020?
I would call the police and ask for a wellness check.