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I told my criticizers "This is not care by committee, I was chosen for a reason." I promptly blocked them so that I would not have that stressor any more. Legally, these are my siblings, but in my mind today, they are my mother's "other children" because I don't have to claim people who treat me with accusations (without provocation) and ill will. I will be kind and let them know when Mom passes but they know where she is if they have questions so I don't have to deal with them. Mind you, once they could not torment me, they haven't given her a second thought for over 2 years now.
It would be nice to know your ages. Also, if you live together and if so, whose home is it. Do you get help? What do others criticize u about?
I am 76 and will tell you I no longer will care for anyone but my husband and that has not been promised. I have cared for grands, helped a family (mother, daughter and grandaughter with rides to doctors), and cared for my Mom. I am cared out.
My cousin was questioning and criticizing everything and every move I made. I once had to get aunt quickly dressed to take her to appointments. I found the first things that were cleaned and folded. Cousin to aunt's neighbor, "Why does she have her in that hot sweater?" Calling, asking if I am putting aunt in the shower? How often am I showering aunt? Everything was questioned and criticized. Mind you, she wasn't lifting a finger to assist, physically. My aunt kept telling me this cousin wanted to be in charge. I told aunt, you all live close by, I have no problems with her being in charge, as I lived out of state. So, guess what? Back seat driver cousin is now the one in charge, and she's not happy about it one bit, but she sure had a lot to say before.
Ask them to come for an afternoon and give you a demonstration of their ‘better way’ to treat her. Be genuine about it. It might help everyone involved.
Sometimes, I'll respond "thank you for the suggestion," hoping they undestand that it means that I heard you but I'm not likely to do what you're saying.
Armchair Critics who do absolutely nothing to help care for your sister have no say at all in what you do or how you do it. Unless you feel you're doing something wrong due to exhaustion or Burn out, then ask for help or get your sister placed.
What is the criticism they are expressing? Often criticism comes from a place of ignorance, inexperience and assumptions/expectations. Trying to defend yourself or justify your actions/decisions to others can be exhausting and a waste of time. Maybe suggest that they come and give you a break for at least a week while you go somewhere else and are "unavailable". Then they will stop questioning you, I promise. Plus, I'm SURE you need the break! Be kind to yourself. You are still your priority.
Please consider other solutions for your sister's care if you are verging on burnout. May you receive wisdom and peace in your heart as you get perspective on the situation.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I am 76 and will tell you I no longer will care for anyone but my husband and that has not been promised. I have cared for grands, helped a family (mother, daughter and grandaughter with rides to doctors), and cared for my Mom. I am cared out.
I once had to get aunt quickly dressed to take her to appointments. I found the first things that were cleaned and folded. Cousin to aunt's neighbor, "Why does she have her in that hot sweater?"
Calling, asking if I am putting aunt in the shower? How often am I showering aunt?
Everything was questioned and criticized. Mind you, she wasn't lifting a finger to assist, physically. My aunt kept telling me this cousin wanted to be in charge. I told aunt, you all live close by, I have no problems with her being in charge, as I lived out of state.
So, guess what? Back seat driver cousin is now the one in charge, and she's not happy about it one bit, but she sure had a lot to say before.
Please consider other solutions for your sister's care if you are verging on burnout. May you receive wisdom and peace in your heart as you get perspective on the situation.