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Bring your mom home and have Hospice care for her in her own home.
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elaine1962 Mar 2021
That’s your opinion. It doesn’t work for everyone. Hospice is wonderful know matter where the setting. The person could be in a TENT with hospice and that would be fine too. “HOME” isn’t always the best option.
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Do what is right for you. It sounds like she needs to be taken care of in a facility.

Don’t feel as if you are responsible for home care. It’s too big of a job at this point.
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This is a really tough one. Being she is in her current state, she will need intensive 24/7 care and I am not sure in my mind that everyone will be willing to do this. Perhaps they are simply not suited to do this or have their own responsibilities or realize the amount of care she needs. It will all fall on the shoulders of one while the others do nothing and resent the intrusion and this alone will cause family problems among the remaining home bound people. Think long and hard. She is very ill, elderly, confused. Why not make arrangements to spend a lot of time with her in hospice or in the place where she is to give her love and attention - they will be able to care for her and she will be safe. And as to hospice at home, I would not count too much on that. If ?? they show up, they are there only a short time. When my husband was dying of pancreatic cancer, I was terribly disappointed. They did almost nothing for him.
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Mon passed PEACEFULLY this morning at 2:30 am. In Hospice at the Boarding care home. They were the best choice I made. They treated her with so much care. I am so happy she is out of pain and with her Heavenly Father and other family and friends. I want to say that this morning all my nerves are very calm now and it is really a strange feeling that mom is gone ...🙏😥🌺🥰 thank you ALL for your answers and post here on AgaingCare it has helped me these last 2 yrs everyday when I read my emails for the site. Love All...kat
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Momheal1 Mar 2021
I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my prayers. I am so glad your mom was cared for beautifully as she passed.🙏🏼
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Kat,

I am so very sorry for your loss.

It’s natural to wonder at times what is the correct path to take. I feel that your mom was in the best place possible.

Hospice care is extraordinary!

I am so glad that you are at peace with the decisions that you made.

May your sweet mother Rest In Peace. She knew how much you loved her. It was completely obvious to me how much you cared.

Please stay in touch on the forum if you are so inclined.

I am going through the same situation right now. My mom is in end stage Parkinson’s disease. She is in an ‘end of life’ hospice house.

I can’t imagine mom living with me or my brother and sister in law again.

It would be too hard to care for her. She is completely bed bound now.

In a hospice facility she can be monitored 24/7. It truly is best all around, for our parents and us.
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KatKat124 Mar 2021
Thank you for your caring post. I noticed that when my mom's pupils were not responding it was just 2 days till she passed. Ty kat
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Kat, I’m so sorry for your loss. My mother and I were close and I know the loss brings a unique pain. Mine was also mixed with gratitude that her suffering was over. I wish you peace and rest in the days to come
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Katkat, I am so sorry for your loss. I know what you are going through as my mother passed away in October.

Prayers going out to you and I wish you peace at this very difficult and emotional time.
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KatKat124: I am so sorry for the loss of your mother and send condolences.
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I am so sorry for your struggles. For my mom (on medicare) hospice did NOT provide a helper. they only sent someone to bathe her 3x week. So you and other family will have to care for your mom 24x7. If on Medicaid, the Medicaid will pay for a respite care worker for (i believe) 20 hours a week. So, please talk to the social worker and make sure you have all of your questions answered. or call medicare or Medicaid directly.
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KatKat,

God bless!!
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