Hi Everyone,
I've read a lot of helpful articles on here and the community seems really supportive and knowledgeable. My question is how to I transition my mom to living on her own from a financial/housing perspective?
The current situation is that she's receiving normal SS (not a lot), and living with my family and I in California. However, she has an entitlement complex and has really worn out her welcome while living here, and with my brother. She really needs her own space as we have a new baby and not enough room, and I will not jeopardize my marriage based on her toxic persona. On top of this, she's opposed to getting the COVID-19 vaccine, despite 2 young (6yo, 7mo) children living here who are unable to get a vaccine. My brother and I have supported her for over 10 years but with our own growing families, we're unable to support her financially to get her a place.
She doesn't have any assets and I plan on helping her apply for SSI and anything else she will qualify for, but I'm wondering how to transition her to getting her own place. Will she qualify for a higher SSI, and housing subsidy with the intention and planning of moving her out? or does she basically have to be out on her own first and have the documentation of rental cost, etc... when applying? What's the best way to go about this?
Thanks for any advice!
You can contact your local Area Agency on Aging and see if she might qualify for some help with housing.
Keep in mind there may be very long lists for subsidized housing.
In a lot of areas there are rooms that people rent out, that might be an option.
Roommates might also be an option.
There might be a problem though if she refuses to be vaccinated and roommates want only vaccinated people, same with a homeowner renting a room.
Not sure about the qualifications but if you and your brother can prove that you have been financially subsidizing her that might help.
https://www.longbeach.gov/health/long-beach-healthy-aging/
Again, once they come into your home it is next to impossible to get them out. That is why you so often hear the words "ER DUMP" on this Forum.
I hope others have better news and ideas for you than I do. I will follow.