My husband who had a stem cell transplant 6 months ago is still needing blood transfusions. It’s a big concern because you cannot keep having transfusions indefinitely. His iron is already sky high from previous transfusions. Now they want to do another bone marrow biopsy to see what is going on. He also has graft vs host disease in his gut which is another complication of the transplant.
He’s down to 135 lbs from 160 and cannot gain weight.
Then this week I received a phone call from my youngest son that he’s checked himself into the psych ward because of suicidal depression. He’s going through tremendous upheaval because he discovered that his sexuality was not what he thought it was. He lives 3 hrs away. I’m thankful that his girlfriend has been supporting him through all this but it’s going to be a while before my son is out of the woods. The uncertainty of everything and the fact that my husband is not stable is creating lots of stress. Add to that - building a house and having to move to a smaller place and you can see what I’m dealing with. I’m trying to take it one day at a time and not think too far ahead but I have to admit- it’s been a tough road.
Yes you are dealing with a lot, but you must remember that the Good Lord never gives us more than He knows we can handle. And when it appears that you just can't handle anymore, then it's time to lean on Him even harder, as we can do all things through Christ who gives us strength.
And make sure that you're taking time away just for yourself, as you need to care for yourself as well. And if that means hiring someone to come stay with your husband a few days then do it. You're worth it!
You can do this. You're stronger than you think.
I could write a book about what I've all been through in my life, including taking care of my husband until his death in 2020, who had many bad health issues and having a son who is now thankfully sober, but struggled for years.
And I can tell you this for certain....what won't kill us will definitely make us stronger. I am living proof!
God bless you my dear.
That must have been difficult taking care of him and then losing him. I’m glad your son is doing well.
My husband illness is rare and so there is really like no standard treatment. When things happen with my husband, the doctors start throwing things at it and hope something will work.
I know my son will be ok. He’s got a good head on his shoulders. He was doing well in his career. He was wanting to marry his girlfriend but of course now things are up in the air. I totally support him and it’s good that this is happening before he made a marriage commitment to someone. I believe the more you can live in your truth, the better your life will be. I know things happen for a reason but I’m ready to have nothing happen for awhile.
As far as your sons crisis, he will navigate it. If the gf was before he figured out he was gay or trans, she’s a good friend but can’t be asked to be more. Support him in being gay, but you can’t run his personal life.