Dad is on hospice dyeing from terminal cancer and is in denial. We are not sure how long he has. but memory is getting really bad and he is buying stuff ( natural cure for cancer) in them morning and then again in the afternoon because he don't remember. Mom is losing memory fast and can't live alone after Dad is gone. If they don't sign up for medicaid we are afraid the state will take them when they show they are unfit to live alone. None of us 3 kids have the time with full time jobs to take this on.
But if you think she would qualify, you or another family member can fill out the plethora of paperwork for her. You do know however that Medicaid only pays for a small number of in-home care hours/week so she'd have to have others step up tp help her if she can't live alone after your dad dies.
However Medicaid will pay to have her placed in a nursing facility if need be, and it may just have to come to that.
And even if your mom signs up for Medicaid, the state can still take over her care which in this instance doesn't sound like a bad idea, since you kids are all too busy to take on her care, and mom shouldn't be living alone.
Sometimes letting the state take over is in the best interest of all.
If your mother is unable to live alone after your father passes away, Medicaid will not cover full-time in-home care.
Do any of you have their POA?
I'm sorry about this stressful situation.