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Right now patient is walking everyday ,does not get lost bathes ,eats at dining room in independent living communityshe is unable to do phone technology, confused, wants to go out and do things but cannot drive ,her electric stove turned off, I need someone to check her needs everyday and follow through with assistance

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Memory care would seem like a more appropriate place for her. If she moved there now, you wouldn't need to hire a drop-in caregiver.
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She needs to be moved to an assisted living community.

If that is not feasible right away, then you have the option of placing her in a care facility for a respite stay.

If you want someone to provide in-home care for her while you are gone, then contact a local home care agency.

AgingCare.com can help connect you to home care providers in your area. Or just fill out the care finder form to the right of this column.
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JoAnn29 Jun 25, 2026
Just so you know. If on a tablet like me or a phone the layout is different than on a laptop. For me, I come to a main page with info on finding a place or help. I then have to click on forum. I have to scroll down to get to the menu.
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I think OP thought this was a job board.
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Would love to know what the OP decided to do.
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Start now and hire a caregiver who will visit her on the schedule you need while you are gone. Look into a private caregiver who will visit and provide care like you. Then continue this while you’re gone and after you are back and continue as a support for both of you. Until she needs to move to assisted living or memory care.
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I am surprised IL allows the patient to live there. They are not independent and should not be alone. They would be a liability for the facility and themselves.
Do they have an AL section for more supervision? I would plan on a move in the near future. IL probably will not keep them.
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If the community is a continuing Care Community where there is Assisted Living and Memory Care you could ask about a "Respite stay" in either the Assisted Living or the Memory Care section.
This person as you describe should not be left alone so really MC would be the best alternative.
The administration of the facility may have restrictions as to who you could hire that would stay with your LO.
They may want to evaluate your LO as to the level of care that is needed. At that point they would restrict your LO to either MC or AL
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This person should not be left alone at all. Why are they in independent living? They should now be in Assisted Living or even Memory care. I would either get them set up in one of these or see if they can be placed there until your return.
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Go to the bottom of this page and look at Find Senior Care. Right under that is in home care, click that. Care.com is a source for finding local caregivers
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You can contact a local in-home care agency. The advantage to that is that if someone is unable to make it one day, they can send someone else. The disadvantage is that they might have a four-hour minimum to make it worth the caregiver’s time to travel. If you can find someone else in the independent living community who has a daily visiting caregiver, you might be able to have that person add on the two hours for your person.

Be aware, as you make your plans, that she may decline over the next three months and need additional supervision while you’re so far away, and think of some back-up plans such as having some family members take turns staying with her.
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