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I was visiting my mom yesterday and she lowered her mask and said I want to go back to my house.  My mom has dementia and has been in assisted living for 7 years.  Her house was sold and I use the proceeds from that to pay her assisted living rent.  I simply said we can't go back to your house.  She said it's not safe?  I said no, it's no longer safe.  But when things get better with this covid outbreak, you can visit me at my house and we can go for drives.  That seemed to register with her.

I like what lifestudent suggested...saying something like "that would be wonderful wouldn't it" and then pair off on another story like "do you remember when we used to blah blah blah" and tell him a story of when your family did something enjoyable that is going to take his mind in another direction.   Re-direction is key, but it has to be something strong enough to divert his thoughts.
Nothing debatable or argumentative or nothing reiterating that his wife is gone.
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My mom is 91 with severe dementia, in her “healthy” life she was always a very practical responsible person. I find that even with her dementia, she still responds to practical and responsible. So I always say something like “the electricity is out at the house and they are working on it...we can go when it’s fixed” It works most of the time.

She couldn’t handle it when I had to go someplace and she was to be left with her caregiver, I said “I have to go to work, so you need to help me out with this” works almost every time.
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